Jacksonville Divorce Lawyer Blog

When divorced Florida parents are forced to deal with child custody issues, tempers can run high – especially if the divorce was not amicable and the parents disagree with the approved parenting plan. Now those parents will have a way to better handle disagreements and build better relationships with their children. A help line has been set up for Lauderdale County, Florida parents that can help them get through child custody issues with less anger and frustration. This is important because fights between divorced parents can cause lasting emotional scars on their children.

The help line, which falls under the umbrella of Families First, offers parents a third party to help them manage and solve parenting disputes. When a call comes in, volunteers talk with both of the parents to help them diffuse angry feelings and come to a suitable compromise.

The line is staffed by twenty one volunteers, who are required to complete a six week training course before answering the phones. The Lauderdale center fields around fifty calls per month. The help line has been so successful in Lauderdale County that a task force has been created to investigate establishing call centers in other areas in Florida, including the Jacksonville, Florida area.

Read more about the co-parenting help line at Help line lessens tensions.

If you are involved in a divorce or child custody negotiation, please contact our law firm for legal counsel.

William Drayton Jr. is best known by his stage name, Flavor Flav. Recently, the 1980’s rap star from the group Public Enemy has made a big comeback by appearing on such reality TV shows as The Surreal Life, Strange Love, and Flavor of Love. But according to the Albany, New York Child Support Collection Division, Drayton owes back child support payments to Mary Parker, the mother of three of Drayton’s children.

Drayton will be required to appear in court to answer charges that he owes Ms. Parker over sixty three thousand dollars in back child support payments and private school tuition. The back child support payments are due to a judge increasing Drayton’s responsibility from just over one hundred dollars per week to over eight hundred dollars per week, and making the ruling retroactive to 2008, when Ms. Parker originally filed an amendment to the child support agreement.

Drayton plans to contest the charges, claiming that he has regularly paid Ms. Parker more than he was required to by the original agreement. Drayton’s recent success has prompted several other complaints from family members, including a daughter who said that he reneged on an offer to pay for her last semester in college. Karen Ross-Fortunate is the mother of three of Drayton’s other children, and has charged that he has not financially supported her children either. Drayton has seven children.

In Florida you can file for a modification of a child support obligation if there has been a significant change in circumstances or the modification is at least a 10% difference between the existing amount and the proposed amount or $25 per month. The distinction is dependent on the length of time it has been since the child support order was entered. A can help you get a child support modification.

If you are having trouble collecting your child support payments, please contact our Jacksonville, Florida law firm for legal counsel.

Read more about Flavor Flav’s child support troubles at http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/local/ct-met-adoption-difficult-20100214,0,7012433.story.

News of the World, a British tabloid, recently ran a front page story purporting to describe all the details of Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie’s divorce, including financial and child custody negotiations. The problem is that the Hollywood power couple claims they are not splitting up, and they have filed suit against the paper for making “false and intrusive allegations” about their relationship.

The LA divorce attorney reported by the News of the World to be involved in drawing up separation papers for the couple has made a statement denying any contact with the family by herself or any member of her firm.

According to lawyers for the family, News of the World has refused to retract their story or apologize for their content. Further, the stories have been widely republished, using the original story as source material. The paper has declined to comment about the lawsuit.

Since the rumor has started about the impending divorce, Jolie and Pitt were seen together with their son Maddox in Miami, Florida at the Super Bowl. Read more details about the lawsuit over phony divorce reports at BRAD PITT AND ANGELINA JOLIE TAKE LEGAL ACTION OVER SPLIT CLAIM.

If you are considering divorce, please contact our Jacksonville, Florida law firm for legal counsel.

Studies have shown that fifty percent of children of divorce in Florida and nationwide have problems later in life that are related to their parents’ split. Author Tony Rassini has just released a new book, entitled "Dad, It's Time to Tell the Truth!" Discover what happens when two parents hate each other more than they love their kids, which he wrote partly to help his son deal with the aftermath of his own “ugly” divorce.

The book is written as a memoir, and follows Rassini’s attempts to be a good father to his four children during and after his bitter divorce. He documents his interactions with lawyers, doctors, and the courts, and looks at how all of these interactions affected his children. In the end Rassini realized that the only thing he had to give his son was the truth.

Divorce is a difficult time for both adults and children. Being age-appropriately open and honest with all family members is the best way to smooth over hard feelings and ensure that all parties can get on with their lives without any lasting scars. Reading about Rassini’s journey can help others going through divorce realize that they are not alone. One of the most important factors in the divorce process is having a family law attorney who will advocate on your behalf while also knowing how to avoid needless litigation which ultimately costs you extensive amounts of money and possibly the respect of your family members.

If you are considering divorce, please contact our northeast Florida firm for legal counsel.

You can read excerpts from the book at Father Loses it All and Mends Relationships with His Children.

Linda and David Pfeiffer of New London, Connecticut already had an adopted son, Darius, and they were not looking to have another child. But when a family friend from Jacksonville, Florida became pregnant and did not believe she was able to care for the child herself, she asked if the Pfeiffers would raise her child. Linda and David agreed, and they adopted Reylani soon after she was born. As part of the process, they flew to Florida and met with an attorney and had the birth parents sign a termination of parental rights.

It was only two weeks later that Linda Pfeiffer received a text message from the child’s birth mother, saying that Reylani’s biological father might actually be a different man. That man filed a paternity suit in Jacksonville Circuit Court and had his paternity confirmed with a DNA test. According to Florida law, a father must assert his paternity by filing the Florida Putative Father Registry Claim of Paternity claim before the child is born. Normally, this man would have no case. However, the child’s biological father is in the Navy, and he is arguing that he should retain his rights under the Servicemembers Civil Relief Act, which allows service members certain legal protections when they are on active duty. According to the Pfeiffers, the biological father knew that the mother was pregnant and was not at sea during the pregnancy, meaning he had ample opportunity to file for paternity during the legal window. The birth mother and biological father have since married.

In March a judge awarded custody to the biological parents, and the Pfeiffers were required to hand her over to them. The couple has since turned the Pfeiffers away when they flew to Florida in hopes of seeing Reylani. The Pfeiffers have filed an appeal to a panel of three judges, and are awaiting final word on their case. If you have questions regarding your rights as a biological parent or an adoptive parent in Florida you should contact a Florida Family Law Attorney.

You can read more about this tug of war over a Florida infant at Legal twist wrenching family apart.

If you are considering adoption, you will need the help of an experienced family law attorney. Please contact our firm for expert legal counsel.

Many people feel that asking for a prenuptial agreement is the end of romance. Others believe that prenuptial agreements are only for the rich. Neither of these statements is true. Prenuptial agreements are appropriate in a number of situations and should be seriously considered before entering into a marriage, which is a legal partnership. A prenuptial agreement is a signed contract that spells out exactly how a couple will handle different aspects of their marriage to include finances, real and personal property, alimony, and several other concerns that often arise throughout the marriage and possibly in a divorce. While this may not seem very romantic, it can be an empowering and positive experience. Probably for these reasons, more and more “average” couples are signing these agreements lately.

Some of the benefits of a “prenup” include facing financial details and discussing them openly, preserving inheritance or the financial well-being of children from a previous marriage, protecting business assets, spelling out financial expectations, and reducing battles over finances in the case of divorce. Of course, there are drawbacks as well; agreements can be set aside if they are found to be fraudulent, unfair or signed under duress. They can be perceived as not being romantic and can imply a lack of trust between partners.

If you are considering a prenuptial agreement, remember a few key points:
- Don’t wait until the last minute. Springing an agreement on someone days before the wedding is not a good idea.
- Don’t hide your feelings or your assets.
- Each person should hire his or her own attorney.

Call a Jacksonville Family Law Attorney to help you understand your options with marital agreements.

Find out more about this topic at Prenuptial Marriage Agreements.

Please contact our law firm for help drafting your prenuptial agreement.

Bristol Palin, the nineteen year old daughter of 2008 vice-presidential candidate Sarah Palin, went before a judge recently to ask that her child custody battle with former fiancé, Levi Johnston, be closed. She has filed for sole custody of her son, Tripp, saying that the child’s father is too immature to be a good parent. She argued that all of the media attention would be harmful to her son, and that our modern electronic communication systems would mean that he would be able to read stories about the battle once he is old enough.

For his part, Levi Johnston is asking for joint custody and has argued to keep the case public, saying that he fears the power Sarah Palin could have over the proceedings if they are kept secret. An Alaska judge ruled that Bristol Palin had no evidence that publicity would be harmful to the child, and that the records would remain open.

In Florida, the term joint custody is no longer used. The courts use parenting plans and time-sharing arrangements to govern the rights of parents to raise their children after a divorce. The new rules can be tricky. You should speak with a Jacksonville Divorce Attorney if you have questions regarding a divorce or custody issues. Walking into family court without an attorney is like performing surgery on yourself. It's not a good idea! You should consult with a professional who knows the laws and can protect your rights.

Read more about the Palin / Johnston custody battle at Tripp Palin custody battle to be heard in public, judge rules.

If you are involved in a custody battle, please contact our firm for expert, compassionate legal counsel.

In the wake of nearly a dozen women claiming to have engaged in extra-marital affairs with golfer Tiger Woods, his wife, Elin Nordegren Woods has reportedly moved out of the couple’s mansion and moved back to Sweden, her home country. The couple does have a prenuptial agreement, but the contents of the agreements are not open to the public. The Woods’ prenuptial agreement is a premarital contract, and theirs will be governed by the Uniform Premarital Agreement Act of section 61.079 of the Florida Statutes. Their prenuptial agreement likely spells out how much alimony Ms. Woods is entitled to receive, if any, the distribution of property and other assets, and any other miscellaneous arrangements that were contemplated by the parties at the time they made the agreement . The right of a child to support may not be adversely affected by a premarital agreement. Premarital agreements, like other contracts, usually hold up in court as long as they are legally executed and do not contain unconscionable clauses. To create a premarital agreement that is legally sufficient to protect your interests you should seek the assistance and expertise of a licensed Florida Family Law attorney.

As for the children, Sam and Charlie, Florida has no presumption of marital custody, meaning that the father and the mother have an equal chance of gaining time-sharing depending on what is in the child’s best interest. Florida rules governing child custody changed substantially in 2008. The terms custody, custodial parent, non-custodial parent, visitation, primary residential parent, and secondary resident parent were eliminated from the statute. The disposition of children after a marriage is now determined by parenting plans and time-sharing schedules. These arrangements are governed by Florida Statutes chapter 61.

In light of the alleged extramarital indiscretions by Tiger Woods it is likely that Ms. Woods may have strong arguments for her to be the parent with more timesharing with the children and be entitled to receive substantial child support. In order for her to be able to move the children to Sweden with her she will have to petition the court and show why it is in the childrens' best interests. Tiger would be entitled to object to moving the children so far from the marital home. Find out more details about the prenuptial agreement at

Tiger Woods gives us pause to contemplate prenups and child custody.

If you would like to draft a prenuptial agreement or are considering divorce, please contact our firm for expert family law legal counsel.

Amy and Scott Kehoe were unable to have children of their own. So they went to great lengths to hand pick an egg donor, sperm donor, and surrogate for their future child. They then hired a Michigan IVF clinic to carry out the procedure. The couple paid for everything out of pocket. But a month after the surrogate gave birth to twins, Ethan and Bridget, the Kehoes were forced to turn the children back over to the surrogate mother, Laschell Baker, who changed her mind about turning over custody of the children when she found out that Ms. Kehoe was under treatment for a mental illness. Ms. Baker, who already has four children of her own with her husband Paul, said she couldn’t live the rest of her life worrying whether Ms. Kehoe’s illness would remain under control.

Surrogacy is largely unregulated, and is controlled mostly by fertility doctors. In some states, the parents must legally adopt the surrogate child, but it creates an interesting legal conundrum, as the parents must first create the baby, which is not genetically related to them, and then ask the courts to grant them custody after the child is born. In other states, the parents are allowed to place their own names on the birth certificate without any screening, if they obtain a pre-birth order allowing it.

If a dispute arises, the outcome varies widely from state to state. In Michigan, the state holds that surrogacy is contrary to public policy and that surrogacy contracts are not enforceable, which is how Ms. Baker so easily had the Kehoe’s guardianship rescinded. Find out more about this child custody case and others like it at Building a Baby, With Few Ground Rules.

The state of Florida regulates surrogacy, with different regulations depending on if the surrogacy is traditional or gestational. If you are considering having a child through surrogacy in Florida, you will need the services of an expert family law attorney. Please contact our firm for expert legal assistance.

The strengthening Families Act of 2003 stated that thirty four percent of all American children live apart from their biological fathers. Forty percent of those children have not seen their fathers in over a year, and fifty percent of those children have never visited their father’s home. The US Census Bureau has reported that five out of six custodial parents are mothers, and that nearly forty percent of fathers have no access or visitation rights to their children.

Unfortunately, many parenting plans in Florida have restrictive visitation rules for the parent with less time-sharing, and do not promote shared parenting or the presence of a child’s father in his or her life after the divorce. Further, a national study revealed that nearly forty percent of custodial mothers admitted to interfering with the father’s visitation to punish him. About fifty percent of mothers reported that they saw no value in their child’s continued contact with the father. The result is the loss of a close relationship between the father and his child.

The fourth judicial circuit guidelines for time-sharing arrangements in the Jacksonville area are the model by which most time-sharing arrangements are designed. However, many times the parent with the most time-sharing takes matters into their own hands by not following the terms of the parenting plan and preventing the other parent from spending time with their child.

If this is happening to you there are laws that protect you. You have a right to spend time with your child. Meet with a Jacksonville Divorce Attorney and discuss what can be done to protect your rights as a parent.

Read more about the plight of divorced fathers and their children at GUEST VIEWPOINT: After divorce, fathers too often excluded from parenting .

If you are considering divorce, please contact our firm for expert family law counsel.

Single Florida parents who have custody of their child or children and serve in the military face unique challenges when it comes time to deploy overseas. Sometimes doing your military duty can mean losing custody of your children. An organization exists called Father and Families which has worked hard to pass legislation in dozens of states that could protect military parents’ custody rights.

As an example, US Army Lieutenant Colonel Vanessa Benson temporarily turned over custody of her son to her ex-husband while she was on active duty in Afghanistan. She returned home to an email from her ex-husband stating that he was not going to return her son, as agreed. Benson spent $12,000 in legal bills to get her son back.

In Florida, HB 435 is a law that helps military parents like Ms. Benson, regain custody of their children. The law states that if a temporary child custody order is made as a result of a parent being deployed, the previous custody orders in effect before the deployment must be reinstated on the parent’s return.

Many military parents in Florida, including the Jacksonville area, have had to serve in war zones overseas only to return home to a fight to enforce the judgments that they worked so hard to attain in the first place. Single military members who have custody of their children should not try to navigate the murky legal waters of the Florida family law system without the help of an experienced family law attorney. If you are a military member involved in a custody battle, you will need an expert family law attorney on your side. Please contact our firm for a consultation.

Read more about the struggles of military parents to keep custody of their children after deployment at Law Fathers & Families Helped Create Leads to Victory for High-Profile Military Parent.

In Florida, parents of children are required to comply with Section 61.13001, Florida Statutes when dealing with a parental relocation with a child. The Florida legislature and Courts recognize that a relocation of a child can be quite traumatic and life changing for both the parent and the child. It is important for parents to comply with the terms of this statute whether the relocation is agreed upon or contested. Parents should always consider the best interest of the child in making decisions including but not limited to relocation. You can read about the details of this statute at the Official Site for Florida Statutes - Section 61.13001, Florida Statutes. Reading this statute and complying with its terms can be quite confusing and stressful for many parents. As such, it is advisable to retain the services of a Jacksonville, Florida Child Custody Attorney in order to make sure that the statute is being complied with and that the best interests of the child are being met.

David Goldman of New Jersey has been battling for nearly five years to have his son Sean returned to him from Brazil. The boy was taken to Brazil by his mother, Bruna Goldman, for a two week vacation in 2004; the two never returned. While in Brazil she divorced Goldman and married an influential Brazilian attorney, Joao Paulo Lins e Silva. Ms. Silva died in childbirth last year, leaving Sean to live with his step-father.

Earlier this year, both secretary of State Hillary Clinton and President Barack Obama became involved in the case, convincing Brazilian authorities to move the case to the federal courts. The federal court ruled that Goldman should be awarded custody of his child, but Sean’s Brazilian family has appealed the decision. Now it is up to Brazil’s Supreme Court. The case will hinge on whether the court finds that the Hague Treaty, which upholds Goldman’s parental rights, is legally enforceable under Brazil’s constitution. Brazil and the US are both signatories to the Hague Treaty. A US lawmaker has planned to introduce a bill that would impose trade sanctions against Brazil until they honor the treaty’s provisions for international child abductions. Find out more about this five year long international custody battle at Brazil custody battle hangs in balance.

Any child custody dispute requires the services of an experienced family law attorney. Please contact our firm for expert legal counsel.

Christopher Alan Lynch of Palm Bay Florida, was reportedly angry about learning that his estranged wife had found a new boyfriend, and responded by holding the woman and their two children, aged eleven and fourteen, hostage at gunpoint. Police were alerted to the incident by a 911 call from the woman’s new boyfriend. The Palm Bay SWAT team was called out to the house.

The wife managed to escape around midnight and the children escaped sometime later; Lynch was apparently falling asleep intermittently. He surrendered to police in the early morning hours. He appeared to be under the influence of alcohol or narcotics, and was taken to the hospital. He has been charged with false imprisonment, child abuse, aggravated assault with a firearm and battery by strangulation. Police reported that they had been called to the house about domestic violence when the couple was still living together but that the wife had not pressed charges.

Even though this couple was not together any longer, people can become very irrational when they are hurt or angry, especially if they are using drugs or alcohol. It happens all too often that a former husband or boyfriend becomes violent when he learns that his former partner has moved on without him. If you are the victim of domestic abuse, you should seek help immediately, and then contact our firm for expert legal counsel.

Read all the details of this terrifying standoff at Father's arrest ends standoff in Palm Bay.

According to authorities, Paul Martikainen kidnapped his three-year old son, Luke Finch, escaping in a sailboat. Cocoa Beach police have reported that witnesses saw the two get into a 32-foot Bristol sailboat at Salt Creek Marina in St. Petersburg, Florida. They said the boy did not seem scared. Acquaintances of the man are worried about both father and son, saying that Martikainen has no sailing experience. According to other boaters at the marina, it is impossible for one person to sail a boat and watch a child at the same time, even for an experienced boater.

Martikainen purchased the boat less than a month ago, saying that he was buying it for someone else, and was going to fix it up and then transport it to Arkansas; he appeared to be living in the boat while he was working on it. Martikainen had further drawn attention to himself around the marina by asking other boaters how to tie different types of sailing knots. Some of the other boaters encouraged him to take sailing lessons after he told them he was going to take the boat out after Thanksgiving.

Luke was reported missing during a supervised visit with his father. He apparently slipped away from the court-appointed supervisor while they were hanging out in a Cocoa park. The supervision was ordered because of earlier allegations that Martikainen was abusing the child. An Amber alert brought in tips that helped police track Martikainen’s vehicle to the marina. Authorities believe the abduction was planned, noting that Martikainen had painted the boat gray, both to cover identifying marks and to make it hard to spot in the ocean.

Police are asking anyone with information on the missing boy to call 321-639-7620 or 911. Read more about the details behind the abduction at At St. Petersburg marina, boaters worry about father, son.

Parents going through a custody battle do not have to do it alone. Please contact our firm for expert Family Law help and advice.

November is National Adoption Awareness Month, and to celebrate, Floridians all across the state will gather at special ceremonies and community events. And Florida residents have a lot to celebrate; Florida has been recognized nationally for its success in placing foster children in permanent homes.

The success of the program is attributed to a federal funding program that allowed Florida child welfare workers to focus services on at-risk children. Florida has used the funds to provide services such as parenting classes, counseling, mentoring and enhanced support for relative adoptions. The program has reduced the number of children living in foster care and group homes by a third and has cut the re-abuse of children in half. The resulting reduction in caseloads has allowed child welfare workers to focus on getting foster kids adopted, which they have done in record numbers as well.

The program does face some problems going forward. Across the board state budget cuts could mean that Florida will fail to meet minimum state funding requirements to qualify for the federal program. And whether or not Florida makes the funding cut, the program will expire in two years. Find out more about Florida’s foster kids at Celebrate adoption.

The adoption process for anyone is delicate, and it is important to look at all aspects of your decision. Having someone leading you through it all can be helpful and make the process much easier to understand. If you are considering adoption, please contact our firm for legal assistance.

A recent study published in the Psychology of Women Quarterly paints a bleak picture for low income women who are subject to abuse. Even those who seek help for domestic violence issues suffer from depression, post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and have to deal with stressful issues like child custody and child support, unemployment and finding affordable housing. Their situation has driven many of these women to return to their abusive partner.

The study points out that most domestic violence programs are focused on getting the woman away from her abuser and starting the legal proceedings to protect her and legally dissolve the relationship if necessary. Very few offer counseling, guidance or follow up to see how the women are doing after they leave. The researchers recommend that programs be offered for these women that provide housing opportunities, job training, transportation and child care so that they do not feel forced to return to their abusive partner because they have nowhere else to go. You can read more about the study findings at Nancy Hengeveld: Without support, battered women often return to their abusers.

If you are involved in an abusive relationship, please seek help for yourself, and then contact one of our Family Law Experts for compassionate legal counsel.

Samad Nesser has tried every legal avenue to prevent his eleven year old son from being taken to France to stay with his mother and her new husband. According to Nesser, his ex-wife has allowed his son to be abused by the new husband, and suffers from sleeplessness and chest pains whenever he returns home from staying with them. Nesser is an American citizen, but his wife is not. The husband, a French citizen, used to live in Palm Beach, Florida, where he was the subject of a restraining order after allegedly breaking into his girlfriend’s home and hitting and pushing her and her elderly mother to the floor. Nesser claims that this same man locked his son in an attic and threatened to kill him.

Judge Daniel Merrit Jr. has refused to grant requests for a guardian ad litem for Nesser’s son. A guardian ad litem would spend time with the child to determine what that child wants and what is in his best interest. Merrit has also refused to let the child testify in court, and the records of the child’s counseling sessions have not been admitted due to what Nesser claims are stalling tactics on the part of his ex-wife’s attorney. At present, there is no way for Nesser to stop his ex-wife from taking their child back to France with her.

According to Florida law, when two parents have a child in Florida, they maintain their rights no matter where they might move later on. Those rights are recognized regardless of citizenship. If you are involved in a child custody battle, please contact our firm for legal assistance.

You can read more about Samad Nesser and his battle to protect his son at Concerned father: Don't let my son go.

Victoria Anderson, now aged 9, has lived with her paternal great grandmother, Marilyn Anderson, in Dayton, Ohio since she was an infant. She has gotten “parenting time” during those years with both her mother and father. Ms. Anderson objected to Ms. Hill smoking around the child during her visits, and the Warren County court ordered all parties to protect the child from second hand smoke. The Ohio 12th district court of appeals has upheld the ruling, using judicial notice to conclude that second-hand smoke is dangerous to children. Taking judicial notice was unusual in this case, because neither of the parties presented proof in court, rather the court recognized an "avalanche of authoritative scientific studies" that show second-hand smoke poses a health danger to children. This decision could now apply to many Ohio children involved in child-custody or visitation cases.

Cases like this pit a parent’s right to smoke against a child’s right to breathe fresh air. But courts have typically decided these types of cases in the best interest of the child, rather than focusing on who has the right to do what. According to non-smokers’ rights group, Action on Smoking and Health, eighteen states have ruled that smoking near a child is a factor that should be taken into consideration when deciding custody.

Find out more about what the courts have to say about smoking and other hazards at Court bans mom from smoking near child.

If you are involved in a child custody battle, please contact our firm for expert, compassionate legal counsel.

Alex Sink is the chief financial officer of Florida, and considered the leading democratic candidate for governor of the state. She recently addressed 300 attendees at a gay rights group fundraising dinner, telling them that she believed homosexuals should be legally allowed to adopt children, as long as it is in the child’s best interest. She said that judges should determine what is in a child’s best interest on a case by case basis. Florida is currently the only state to explicitly ban homosexuals from adopting.

Ms. Sink's opponent, Republican Bill McCollum, has said he would defend Florida’s ban on gay adoption. The debate comes at a time when a state appeals court is considering the case of a gay man in North Miami who wants to adopt his two foster children. The race between McCollum and Ms. Sink is considered close. Find out more about how gay issues are affecting the race at Sink backs adoption by gays, lesbians.

Any adoption will require legal pleadings, documents and proper notice. The adoption of a child is an important decision that should be handled with the services of a family law attorney to make sure procedures are followed correctly. If you are considering adoption, please contact our firm for expert legal support.

Mildred Muhammad, ex-wife of DC Sniper John Allan Muhammad, gave an interview to Larry King the night before her husband was to be executed for his crimes at a Virginia state prison. Muhammad left 10 dead in a shooting spree that his ex-wife believes was destined to end with her as its final victim.

Ms. Muhammad said she felt very guilty about the victims of her ex-husband’s rampage, which left millions of DC residents fearful of going out in public. She claims that she had done “everything I knew how to do” to bring Mohammad’s violent and abusive nature to the attention of authorities, but it wasn’t enough. And she feels ashamed for not realizing that his violent behavior would extend beyond her, to affect other people.

Ms. Muhammad had divorced her husband because of his allegedly abusive behavior towards her. Authorities maintain that Muhammad started killing random strangers as a cover up, with the ultimate goal of shooting his wife the same way, so that he could take custody of their three children. Muhammad has always claimed that he is innocent of the charges.

Ms. Muhammad has worked through her guilty feelings and is concentrating on caring for her three children during this emotional time. Muhammad’s first wife, Carol Williams, was also interviewed by King, and said she planned to visit Muhammad in prison with their son before the execution. You can read more about the interviews at Ex-wife of infamous 'D.C. Sniper' felt guilty about shootings.

Domestic violence is very dangerous behavior, and it this case is a tragic example of how far it can go if left unchecked. People who are in reasonable fear of being in imminent danger of domestic violence should take very action to protect themselves, including calling the police and taking out an injunction.

If you are a victim of domestic abuse, please contact our firm to explore your legal options.

Alaska governor and 2008 vice-presidential candidate Sarah Palin was forced to admit during her campaign that her fifteen-year-old daughter, Bristol, was pregnant. At the time the young girl and her teenage boyfriend, Levi Johnston, said they planned to marry. But they broke off their engagement earlier this year.

Now Johnston is pursuing legal action to obtain joint custody of the couple’s 10-month-old son, Tripp. He alleges that the Palin family is making it difficult for him to see his son. Sarah Palin is reportedly upset with Johnston for his upcoming appearance in Playgirl magazine. The two have had a publically strained relationship for some time. The Palin family attorney has stated publically that, according to the Palins, Johnston is always welcome to visit his son. You can read much more of the back and forth between Sarah Palin and her former potential son-in-law at Levi Johnston to Sue for Joint Custody of Son Tripp.

For unmarried or divorced parents in Florida, this case brings up some issues related to joint custody in Florida. Many Florida parents are seeking either joint custody or 50/50 rotating custody. The courts in North Florida do not really prefer this type of custody arrangement because some courts believe that the arrangement just isn't practical for the children once they start school unless the parents live within a few miles of one another and demonstrate that they can operate as a real team. If you need help with a custody issue, please contact our firm for legal counsel.

TV cooking show host Mary Jo Eustace was not very well known until her husband, actor Dean McDermott, divorced her to marry heiress and famous Hollywood actress Tori Spelling in 2006. McDermott and Spelling met on the set of a lifetime movie they were working on together. Ms. Eustace has said she was taken by surprise when her divorce garnered major media attention.

Ms. Eustace has said that her divorce was a shocking surprise as well as very public and humiliating. One of the insults the newly married couple heaped on Ms. Eustace included offering to produce a reality show where Ms. Eustace looks for a new husband. Ms. Eustace declined, and instead is launching her own reality show, which will help women in midlife reinvent themselves after divorce. And she has written a book to tell the world about the pains of her divorce; the book is entitled Divorce Sucks: What to Do When Irreconcilable Differences, Lawyer Fees and Your Ex's Hollywood Wife Make you Miserable.

In the book she talks about the divorce and her reaction to it, which has included getting over the betrayal of her husband and making more time for herself. You can read more about the new book at Life after divorce: Mary Jo Eustace enjoys her second act.

Divorce is very hard emotionally for all parties. Many people going through a divorce , especially those left for another person, are filled with anger and sadness caused by the actions of their former partner. Ms. Eustace’s book shows that, while divorce is difficult, it may the answer to a happier life. If you are considering divorce, please contact our firm for expert, compassionate legal counsel.

Australian actor Mel Gibson and his girlfriend, Russian musician Oksana Grigorieva, have welcomed a baby girl named Lucia into the world. While Lucia is Gibson’s eighth child, it is the couple’s first child together. Gibson has seven children with his former wife, Robyn Gibson. They divorced in April of this year after twenty-eight years of marriage. Gibson and Grigorieva met while filming “Edge of Reason.”

Gibson’s daughter was born in California, but if the child had been born in Florida, the new girlfriend would definitely need to file for a paternity action so that a judge could determine Mel to be the LEGAL father of the child and to have a support obligation for her. Until a judge signs an Order making Mel the legal father, the child would not be considered to be an heir at law to Mel Gibson. In sum, people who have babies out of wedlock in Florida need a paternity action even though they may be listed on the birth certificate. Until a Judge says that the father is the father, the child will not be legally recognized as the legal heir.

If you are unmarried and expecting a child, please contact our firm for family legal counsel.

Find out more about Mel Gibson's daughter, Lucia, at Mel Gibson and his girlfriend welcome a baby girl.

Recently, a married Scottish couple lost custody of two of their children after failing to comply with Scottish social services’ warnings to reduce the children’s weight. A woman in South Carolina has also lost custody of her son and is facing criminal child neglect charges after the child’s doctor reported concerns about his weight to social services. There have been several other similar cases in the US and Canada. The public may not have heard about the growing number of cases because of child privacy laws.

Many states are now considering the obesity of the children post divorce in modification actions. A modification is a change to any final divorce judgment and is based on a substantial change in circumstances of either party since the entry of the final judgment. If the final judgment grants custody to the wife and two years later the kids are 300 pounds, the courts COULD change the custody to the father if the court finds that it is in the best interests of the children to change the custody and if the courts find that the weight of the children is now a substantial change in circumstance. Now, obesity of the children could be one of the considerations in a change of custody issue and is an interesting legal argument to keep an eye on.

If you are engaged in a child custody battle, please contact our firm for expert, compassionate legal counsel.

Find out more on the issue of childhood obesity at Should Parents of Obese Kids Lose Custody?

Kate Gosselin, mother of the eight children featured in the TLC reality show, “Jon & Kate Plus 8” has been going through a very public divorce from her husband, Jon Gosselin. On a recent episode of the show, she answered questions from viewers, including whether or not she feels she would like to marry again in the future. Her answer was “I don't know, I really don't want to be married again, but I don't want to be alone. The alone-ness is really alone.”

Many people who go through a divorce feel the same way as Ms. Gosselin. Divorce is very hard emotionally for all parties. A divorce can feel very similar to the death of a loved one, and people need to allow themselves time to heal emotionally. But for many people, divorce is not the end but the beginning of their new, healthier life. And that may very well include a new romance.

If you are considering divorce, please contact our firm for expert, compassionate legal counsel.

Movie stars, millionaires and other VIPs work very hard to keep their personal details private – especially when it comes to divorce. They claim they have a greater need for concern about identity theft. For business executives, the business itself can intervene to protect confidential company information that might come out in the divorce. Of course, news organizations are fighting to keep everything in the public domain. The controversy pits privacy against the first amendment.

Certainly the same concerns exist for non-famous wealthy couples, who may want to keep their financial documents and dirty laundry out of the public domain. There are ways to keep the divorce settlement confidential in Florida, and we are a law firm that knows the ins and outs of accomplishing the goal of confidentiality in Florida for high end divorce settlements.

If you are considering divorce, and want to keep the details private, contact our firm for expert legal counsel.

Find out more about this topic at Rich, famous push for secrecy in divorce.

In Florida, the courts in Miami overturned the ban on gay adoptions in August 2009. Judge Cindy S. Lederman wrote in her opinion that excluding gay couples defeats Florida’s mission to provide all children permanent families. The state has claimed that gays are more likely to suffer from psychological imbalances and substance abuse than heterosexual couples, although several well-respected organizations have said that gay parents do not negatively affect a child’s upbringing.

A statewide resolution must be determined by an appellate court before the ban is officially lifted. Florida is the only state to ban homosexuals from adopting children. A few other states prevent unmarried persons from adopting children, which effectively bans gays, who are not legally allowed to marry in those states. Mississippi allows single people to adopt, no matter what their sexual orientation, but prohibits same-sex partners from adopting jointly.

The state attorney general's office has appealed the decision so the gay and lesbian community in Florida await the decision to see if they will have the "right" to adopt in Florida.

If you are considering adoption or another family matter that may require legal guidance, please contact our firm.

Find out more about this topic at Judge overturns Florida ban on adoption by gays.

Many clients need immediate help when they first start going through a divorce. The idea that a divorce can take many months to finalize is very upsetting for most people. But there are temporary motions that can be filed to address issues such as temporary child support, custody, possession and occupancy of the marital home and the like. Temporary orders are legally binding guidelines that both parties must follow until the divorce is finalized.

Some common items covered in a temporary divorce order include:
- An agreement not to use the other party’s credit or make a large purchase without advance written notice
- Jointly owned property cannot be sold or used for collateral
- Insurance policies must remain in effect
- A child visitation and child support agreement
- No changes should be made to retirement accounts
- Agreement as to who will remain in the family home

If you are considering divorce, please contact our firm for expert, compassionate legal counsel.

Find out more about temporary divorce orders at Temporary Divorce Orders .

Military divorces are subject to certain laws that are not applicable to civilian divorces. As an example, those active in the military are entitled under federal legislation in some cases to delay a divorce or to take advantage of court-appointed counsel. Additionally, military pensions are subject to different rules than private retirement accounts or other types of pensions. Calculating alimony and child support is also affected by federal regulations, as is the location of the actual divorce proceedings.

As a Jacksonville, Florida law firm, Wood, Atter & Wolf, P.A., specializes in military divorces and is well prepared to deal with the unique issues that a military family has to deal with, such as child custody as a result of deployment as well as how to divide and calculate military pay and pension.

If you are an active service member who is considering divorce, please contact our firm for expert, compassionate legal counsel.

Find out more about this topic at Military Law and Divorce.

For parents going through a divorce, keeping things civil can be difficult. Not keeping things civil can be difficult for the children involved. As divorcing parents are starting to look for alternatives to fighting over and in front of the kids, co-parenting classes are gaining in popularity. Co-parenting classes are designed to help parents deal with conflicts that come up about the kids after the couple has split. The classes can help parents deal with their anger and frustration in more positive ways, working together to solve issues before they became a fight.

Divorce is a hard time for children, and it is even harder if the parents are not getting along or not speaking to each other. Co-parenting teaches adults much better ways of coping with disagreements, which not only eases the burden on the children, but models positive interactions that they can use in their own lives.

If you are considering divorce, please contact our firm for expert, compassionate legal counsel.

Find out more about this topic at Divorce 101: Co-Parenting Experts Help Couples Like Jon and Kate Gosselin.

Divorces are usually marked by battles over property and child custody issues. Deciding who gets to keep the family pet can add a whole new topic for couples to fight over. Who gets to keep the dog, cat or lizard is a topic that comes up frequently in divorce proceeding, and, like everything else, can be a difficult and emotional issue to deal with.

In Florida, as in most other states, pets are considered property – which means they are subject to ownership, not custody. That means that “joint custody” is not an option in Florida. Legally property can only be awarded to one party in the divorce. A pet acquired during the marriage is considered joint marital property, even if it was given as a gift from one spouse to the other.

Couples have much more flexibility in deciding what will happen to the pet if they come to an agreement outside of court. If the divorcing couple cannot agree between themselves who should keep the pet, the judge must award it as property. Judges will consider who spent the most time with the pet, who took the most care of it and who is more bonded with the animal when making a decision.

In a divorce where a pet is involved, the couple should make every effort to find a common ground before going through the agony and expense of a court battle over a pet. While the pet may be oblivious to the battle being waged, the emotional pain is felt deeply by the couple and especially their children.

If you are considering divorce, please contact our firm for expert, compassionate legal counsel.

Find out more about this topic at Pets are property in divorce.

An emerging divorce method, using what is called a "collaborative process," brings legal, financial and mental health professionals together to help encourage cooperation between the divorcing couple. The method is starting to gain momentum as the Florida Bar has drafted legislation to codify collaborative divorces into Florida state law. The Jacksonville Bar Association recently sponsored a seminar on the topic, which drew a large percentage of mental health professionals.

Currently, collaborative divorce is a voluntary process that is entered into when a couple signs a document stating that they will not take their divorce to court. Financial and mental health counseling is included as part of the process. An added benefit is that a collaborative divorce usually costs significantly less than litigation. It also allows families to structure financial details with more fluidity than is usually the case in traditional divorce proceedings. The process not only eases the divorce process for couples and their families, it also eases the case load on family court.

Any divorce method that cuts down on fighting and animosity is good for both the couple and their children. People who are under the stress of a divorce can only benefit from having a team of professionals help them work their way through all the details amicably.

If you are considering divorce, please contact our firm for expert, compassionate legal counsel.

Find out more about this topic at Collaboration allows for a kind divorce.

by Whitney R. Lonker, Wood, Atter & Wolf, P.A.
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In Jacksonville, Florida and in all counties in Florida, if children are an issue in a divorce case, the courts will require that the parents attend and complete a parenting course or divorce class. In Jacksonville, Florida, the class is called Children First In Divorce. The purpose of the class is to teach the parties how to put their emotional beliefs aside and to focus on helping the children get through this very difficult process. The Hope Haven Children's Clinic offers the class to those located in the Fourth Judicial Circuit which encompasses Duval, Clay & Nassau Counties in Florida. All states require some form of children first in divorce. Please call our firm for advice on how to set up your class and on how to proceed with your divorce.

Written By: Lenorae C. Atter
Family Law Attorney, Wood, Atter & Wolf, P.A.

In Putnam County, Florida Haleigh Cummings went to bed on February 10, 2009 and has not been seen since. The last person to see Haleigh is Misty Croslin Cummings, who was babysitting the night of the disappearance and soon thereafter married Haleigh's father. Now, the couple is divorcing and blaming the stress of Haleigh's disappearance as the reason. However, most people remain skeptical at this idea.
In Florida, there is a Husband-Wife privilege that gives spouses the ability to claim the privilege in court when their confidential conversations are questioned. This is a privilege because there is a strong public policy that spouses should be able to speak openly and honestly with one another. There was speculation that this privilege led to the marriage of Misty and Ronald Cummings after Haleigh's disappearance. Now that they are divorcing many are wondering if it means Ronald knows more about Misty Cummings's involvement in the disappearance of her stepdaughter. However, the privilege attaches even after the marriage has ended.
More on this issue tomorrow regarding the Husband-Wife privilege in cases involving crimes against children of either spouse.

By Whitney R. Lonker, Wood, Atter & Wolf, P.A.
wlonker@woodatter.com

Time after time with my child custody cases in Jacksonville, Florida and the surrounding counties such as Nassau, St. Johns, Clay and Putnam, the parties will enter into a stipulation or an agreement where each will retain all rights as mother and all rights as father and share in the parenting responsibilities of the child or children. Shared parental responsibility means that each parent retains full rights to have a say or input in major decisions regarding the child's life just as if the parents were still residing under the same roof. The question then becomes what qualifies as a major decision? Decisions such as will the child get braces, will the child get glasses, what religion will the child practice if any, to what school will the child go, how will the child be treated medically and by whom all fall under the major decision category. The gray areas appear regarding the child's hairstyle, clothing, etc. It is a good rule of thumb when the parties share parental responsibility to attempt to include the other parent in as many decisions as possible that will have an extreme affect on the child. If you have any questions regarding a divorce, child custody, child support, alimony, or modification of a final judgment matter, please call our firm for advice and support.

By Whitney R. Lonker, Wood, Atter & Wolf, P.A.
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When there are young children involved in a dissolution action, the case usually has many post dissolution issues that arise as the children get older and new conflicts are created. One issue that continually appears is that the child decides the he/she would rather live with the other parent. To be able to bring a modification of a final judgment in a family law matter, the Courts require a substantial change in circumstances in order for a party to have the ability to bring the action. Many times the party attempting the modification relies on the fact that the child wants the change and that it is, therefore, in the child's best interests. However, without having a substantial change in circumstances, the requested change in custody should fail. If the child wants the change and that desire is coupled by the fact that the child was too young to express a preference in the initial divorce proceeding, then that alone is considered a substantial change in circumstances. If you have questions regarding divorce or post divorce issues, please call me at 904-355-8888.

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Are you paying child support after your rights have been terminated? Child support, according to Florida law, is the right of a child with parents living in separate households. The child support obligation begins at the child's birth if the parents are not married, even if paternity has not been established. Once paternity is established, the Court can go back two years, within the life of the child, for back child support.
If your rights have been terminated to a child, but you owe back or retroactive child support, or your support is in arrears (you have not paid regularly), then you may still pay child support after termination of your rights, but only the amount that was due as of the time your rights were terminated.
An example: A child is born outside of wedlock and the mother files a Petition to Establish Paternity. The petition is granted when the child is 2 years old and is going to be $100/month (not realistic numbers), which means the Father is $2,400.00 in arrears due. The court will have him pay $100/month + $50/month towards the arrears until they are paid in full.
Well it will take the Father 48 months or 4 years to pay off the $2,400.00. If before that time the father agrees to terminate his parental rights because the Mother has remarried and her husband wants to adopt, then the Father is still responsible for whatever the balance due is on the $2,400.00 until it is paid.
If you have any questions or concerns regarding this matter, please contact an attorney.

Written By: Lenorae C. Atter, Florida Family Law Attorney
latter@woodatter.com

In a Florida divorce, I realize there are divorce myths, which seem to circulate from Jacksonville to Miami. If you are going through a divorce there are certain myths that people seem to tell.
The most common myth for in a divorce with children is that the new time sharing law requires that you and your spouse have 50/50 visitation with the Child. This is not true. The Court looks at the best interest of the Child and in so doing, the visitation will be a factor. It is often not considered proper for 50/50 because the Child has different rules in each house, which plays a role in the child's ability to do well in school, at home and in extracurricular activities.
The second myth is that child support is negotiable. This is not true, because according to Florida Statute, a parent cannot negotiate away the Child's right to child support. Support for a child is determined on the income of both parents and tries to place the child in the same position s/he would have been had the parents stayed together.
The third is that if you aren't allowed or use the time sharing (visitation) then you do not have to pay child support. If the lack of contact is due to you or your spouse, that does not alleviate your financially responsibility to your child. Visitation does not equal child support.

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As an attorney Jacksonville, Florida I have handled stepparent adoptions and seen the incredible impact and purpose it has for a family. If you are married and your child views your spouse as their parent, then you are probably wanting to pursue a stepparent adoption action. Whether you were previously married or had a child out of wedlock, and the other parent has not been in your child's life, then your current spouse and you may have discussed a stepparent adoption.
There are a few steps in getting a stepparent adoption and it is wise to discuss your case with an attorney that has experience in the area. However, to bring a few important issues to light I will explain the process.
1. If you are the Mother of a child and have not spoken to the child's father or have no way of contacting the child's father, then you may have to do a request into the Office of Vital Statistics Putative Father Registry. If no one has claimed that he may be the father of your child, then you will receive a certificate stating such.
2. An Affidavit of Diligent Search may need to be filed with the Court, which proves that you have looked for the other parent and have been unable to locate him/her.
3. If you do know where the other parent is, then he/she may voluntarily consent to the Termination of Parental Rights.
4. If the other parent refuses to consent, but has been absent from the Child's life for an extensive period of time, then you may file a Petition for Termination of Parental Rights that lays out the groundwork for why his/her rights should be terminated.
5. Once any or all of the above is completed, then you can file a petition for stepparent adoption.
In so doing, the stepparent is basically telling the court that she/he will be responsible for the wellfare and financial responsibilities of the Child. That she/he understands and consents to the Child having the right to claim to be his/her natural child for purposes of inheritance. That she/he has the financial ability to provide for the Child now and even if the parties (husband and wife) were to divorce.
It's an amazing process. While it sounds difficult due to the actions needed in steps 1 through 4, it is often quite simple and painless for the parties seeking the action. The reality is that the Court wants to know that the actions are in the best interest of the child. It is always better for a child to have two parents when available.

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In Jacksonville, Florida, as a family law attorney, I receive questions about terminating parental rights. This is not an easy process since there are many protections in place for parents. I will probably do a series of blogs on this topic in order to cover each area, but we will start with the consent and agreement of both parties.
If a parent would like to terminate his/her parental rights, then there are certain things that must be in place. The following would be required:
1. There is another person to take the role of mother/father both emotionally and financially.
2. The parent is doing so knowingly with full understanding and willfully.
3. The termination is in the best interest of the child.

If these things are met, then the Court may grant termination of parental rights. The difficulty is, this does not alleviate child support that may be due from years of nonpayment. If a parent owes child support arrearages (back child support), then the termination of their rights does not alleviate or diminish the back child support to be paid.
The only time that can go away is if the other parent (non-terminating) is willing to forgive any and all arrearage. However, if the payments were through the state's Department of Revenue, then even agreeing does not end the State's interest in collecting that money on behalf of the Child.
If this is something that you are interested in pursuing, it is best to work with an attorney on this matter whether your are the one terminating or the one requesting termination.

Written By: Lenorae C. Atter, Florida Family Law Attorney
latter@woodatter.com

In Florida, many courts have time sharing or visitation guidelines and they can be specific to distance. In Jacksonville, we have the 4th Judicial Circuit Guidelines, which provide for time sharing throughout the school year and holidays.

Time sharing is now the correct term for visitation and a time sharing plan is required in a case involving children. You can either use the court guidelines develop your own, as long as the other party and/or the court agrees with the schedule.
Long-Distance Guidelines in Jacksonville set-up a number of opportunities for visitation. There is an ability to continue with alternating weekends, but it must be done in the town where the child resides. You can have once/month at your home, depending on the situation surrounding your case. In addition, you will be entitled, again depending on the facts of your case, to timesharing during the Spring Break time each year and summers beginning 5 days after school gets out until 2 weeks before school commences.
Long distance timesharing often has costs associated, so you have to determine what is best for you and the other parent for the child to stay connected to both parents.

Written By: Lenorae C. Atter, Florida Family Law Attorney
latter@woodatter.com

In Florida, there is a relocation statute if you are moving with a child. As a Jacksonville divorce and family law attorney, I realize that not everyone understands that moving may require court action. Relocating for a job, marriage or any other reason? If you have a child and looking to move, then you may have to file a Petition for Relocation with the Court.
Florida law has a Relocation Statute, which requires that a relocation petition be filed with the Court if you are planning on moving, with your child, 50 miles or more away from your current residence. This is required if the move or relocation is for more than 60 days.
Filing a petition for relocation also requires that the other parent is served with the papers and (s)he has 20 days to file an objection. If an objection is not filed within that time period, then the Court will assume the move is in the best interest of the Child.
If the other parent will agree to your relocation, then you can file an agreement with the Court. The catch is, there a number of provisions within the Relocation Statute that must be met or you could face contempt, the Court can require you to return, and the Court may go so far as to change the primary residential parent.

Written by Whitney R. Lonker, Wood, Atter & Wolf, P.A.
wlonker@woodatter.com

No matter what happens with your divorce in Florida, divorce is costly even if the parties agree on almost every matter. In the end, each party is still having to live on half of the money that they were prior to the divorce. How do you still take your child on a nice family vacation post-divorce in Florida? Below are some suggestions for having a blast of a vacation and building family memories post divorce without breaking your bank.
1. Camping- having memories around the campfire is a great way to wind down and bond with the child(ren) post divorce. It's an inexpensive way to put the stress of the dissolution behind you and to focus on the children in a relaxing setting.

2. Visiting Extended Family- if the ex spouse did not see eye to eye with your extended family, now is the perfect opportunity to rebuild the extended family relationship. Grandparents are important to children. Take this opportunity to build the bond.

3. Volunteering- Take your kids to volunteer at the homeless shelter or Habitat For Humanity in your city. These volunteering opportunities will help to build character and will allow the child(ren) to give back to others. Oftentimes, helping others helps to take the stress off of ones own situation.

4. Fishing or Horseback Riding Trip- There is no better way to de-stress from a contentious legal battle than to get back to nature.

5. Do NOT go into debt to go on vacation. If you can't afford to travel, find creative, interactive activities to do in your own backyard such as a craft project, grilling out, backyard sports such as badminton, etc.

Whatever you decide, there are ways to enjoy the family summer vacation post divorce without breaking the bank. At this point, the kids just want the security of being with you. If you have any questions about child custody, alimony, divorce, child support or other family law or criminal law matters, please contact our firm for expert answers.

Written by Whitney R. Lonker, Wood, Atter & Wolf, P.A.
wlonker@woodatter.com

More courts throughout the country including Florida are recognizing a condition called Parental Alienation Syndrome or PAS. PAS in Florida is most recognized in contested child custody cases. PAS occurs when one parent pits the child or children against the other parent in a child custody dispute and indocrinates the child with disparaging remarks about the other parent in an attempt to wreak damage to the parent/child relationship and to taint the child's view of the other parent. In some cases where PAS has been alleged, the courts have transferred custody to the parent who is being alienated in order to preserve the relationship. In some jurisdictions, PAS is charged as a criminal offense. In Florida and most other jurisdictions, the courts use the best interests of the child standard and most often, alienating one parent from the child is not in the child's best interests. For more information about this issue and other issues involving divorce, child custody, child support, or family and criminal law issues, please contact our firm for expert advice.

By: Lenorae C. Atter, Jacksonville Family Law Attorney
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1. What will I pay in child support?
- Child support is a calculation mandated by Florida Statute 61.30 and is based on the net income of the parties as a whole and the individual's percentage of that whole. There are things taken into the calculation consideration such as mandatory retirement and union dues, insurance costs of the child(ren) and day care costs for the child(ren). There can be considerations given for special needs or circumstances, but typically the calculated number will be the actual child support to be paid.

2. Which parent will get the child(ren)?
- The court can look at the history of the family unit, to which parent will be more likely to provide for the child's needs, etc. Ultimately the decision is based on the best interest of the child. While the Courts should look solely to the factors impacting the child, sadly there are still biases that sometimes remain, but those can be defeated under the right set of circumstances.

3. How often will I see my child?
- In Jacksonville, we have 4th Judicial Circuit Time Sharing Guidelines, which sets up the minimum amount of visitation. Each circuit is different, but many have the same concepts in place. Basically, the guidelines set-up alternating weekends, one night per week for dinner, and alternating holidays. Summer timesharing is often switched.

Written By: Lenorae C. Atter, Florida Family Law Attorney
latter@woodatter.com

In Jacksonville, Florida, as a family law and divorce lawyer, I represent a number of individuals who have been or are in the military. Military family law differs in that many different amounts of income are factored in for purposes of child support and alimony. In addition, retirement is based on the military's determination of years in plus points earned during the time served in the Reserves.
In order to best determine the rights you and your children have while dealing with a military family case, it is best to speak with a lawyer that is familiar with all aspects of the system. BAH and BAS do change, but child support still factors those in. In addition, since some of the benefits are based on marriage and children, the military actually has some control until a civil court determines the actual amounts to go to the other party.

In a Florida Times Union article this week, summer visitation/timesharing was a topic of the article, " 'Summer switch' under way for divorced parents, kids", which quoted our attorney, Lenorae C. Atter, on the ins and outs of summer timseharing.
The article focused on the changes for both the children and the parents during the summer months, when visitation alternates from weekends to six (6) week visitation/timesharing. Lenorae Atter added to the article her thoughts on the matter stating, "Atter did the summer switch herself as a child and said problems can arise when kids want to go to camp or other activities in the summer, which can lead parents to feel like “their time” is being infringed upon." She went onto include that timesharing plans and parenting plans work to assist the parties in better communicating with each other and taking the children's interests into consideration as they get older.
Timesharing and parenting plans have been in effect since October 1, 2008, and they are helping parents put the children's needs first in the divorce. A great first step in the way we handle visitation in the future.
Lenorae Atter's reference to "sit back and enjoy the ride" truly is a motto for parents and children to benefit from in the annual time exchange.

Written by Whitney R. Lonker, Wood, Atter & Wolf, P.A.
wlonker@woodatter.com

Just about the worst thing that can happen to a parent is to have their child abducted. In the course of a divorce case with custody or time-sharing that is at issue, unfortunately, child abduction by a parent can be a real threat and a real reality. There are approximately 200 cases of parental child snatching every year. Sometimes these parents leave the home state of the child or remove the child from the United States altogether. Florida, like most states, has adopted the Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act (UCCJEA) which rules that initial child custody determinations should be made by the child's home state. A child's home state is the state in which a child has lived with a parent or guardian for at least six (6) months.

Continue reading "Parental Kidnapping: What To Do To Recover Your Child in Florida!" »

Written By: Lenorae Atter, Florida Family Law Attorney
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Going through a divorce in Jacksonville, Florida or its surrounding areas can raise questions involving visitation, child support, alimony, etc. However, what about grandparents and the impact of divorce on them? In Florida, grandparents are not given a statutory right or any other right to the grandchildren, except as decided by the parent(s).
This matter may arise if the parties that are divorcing disagree on the grandparents having visitation, or if one of the parents is deployed, incarcerated or otherwise not allowed visitation with the children. The primary residential parent would be the decision maker for the children in that scenario. Therefore, that parent can determine with the grandparents will actually get any form of visitation with the children. As grandparents, it is best to keep a good relationship with your own child and your child's spouse/exspouse in order to preserve a relationship with your grandchildren.

In Jacksonville, Florida family law, I deal with cases involving children, divorces, support, visitation and custody, and as d a person interested in my work, I find different information helpful. What is most interesting, however, is that there are so many different statistics we can view, pieces we can read on the effects of divorce, societal changes and how they are affected, and multiple other news and information outlets regarding this topic. However, it does not seem like most of the information provided is from firsthand experience and what a child may have witnessed in their broken home(s).
Recently, I was reading an article in the Washington Post on, the book "The Marriage- Go-Round" and how Americans have a higher rate of divorce than any other country in the world. Not only that, Florida has a higher divorce rate than mid-west or western states. The article discusses the whys and why nots and stability's role in our lives. "If you already have a child and you've broken up with the other parent, slow down. Take your time bringing new people into your household." Andrew J. Cherlin, a Johns Hopkins University sociologist.
The issues raised in the book and the article are all factors in considering a "Parenting Plan," which is now a requirement in divorces involving children. It allows you to factor in the many difficult decisions you and your exspouse will be making through your child(ren)'s life. It's important to consider factors in dealing with new relationships and introducing them into your lives. It also allows you to consider birthday, graduations, weddings, etc.

WHO IS MICHAEL JACKSON'S BABIES' MAMA??? In fact, who is Michael Jackson's babies' father??? News reports have surfaced that neither Debbie Rowe nor Michael Jackson are the biological parents of the three Jackson children. Thus the question arises: Who Will Get Custody of These Children? News reports are stating that Debbie Rowe served as a surrogate mother to the children meaning that her egg was not used in the fertilization of the children nor was Michael Jackson's sperm. Reports are that the children were conceived in vitro using donor eggs and donor sperm. Legally speaking, this really should not make much difference in terms of custody of the children as the children are considered heirs at law of Michael Jackson and his mother will probably be the most likely candidate to gain custody and control of the children and their interests. What this news does do is eliminate Debbie Rowe as a possible candidate for custody of the kids as she served only as an incubation chamber and has no real biological ties to the children. If you or your loved one has a question about custody, paternity, child support or any other issue in Duval, Clay, Nassau or St. Johns Counties, please contact our firm at 904-355-8888 for help in addressing these important complex matters.

Florida's visitation is now timesharing and residential parent is now majority timesharing parent. As a Florida family law attorney I have focused on the parents and children going through this change, but it was brought to my attention that change in visitation and custodial parents is actually having an impact on the Florida schools.
I practice primarily in Jacksonville, Orange Park, Fernandina and St. Augustine, but an article in the Bradenton Herald caught my attention. The article, entitled "Schools Custody Policy Proposed: Custodial Parent Is No Longer Decision Maker In Schools" deals with the impact the new legislation has had on the schools determining which parent is the "go to" parent on school issues. Historically, a family would go through a divorce and the mother or father was determined the "Primary Custodial Parent". In today's world of timesharing, things have changed and the language needs to be tightened up to make things easier. The legislature did create "Parenting Plans" to help in this transition and determine the roles of the parents.
While the article states that timesharing is designed to give both parents 50/50 split, that is actually not true. Timesharing is a way for the parents to feel as if they both get the child and that one parent is not more important or greater than the other. The courts, at least in Jacksonville, still frown at the concept of children not having a stable environment.

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In a Jacksonville, Florida divorce, just the entry of the, "parties are returned to the status of being single" does not bar a claim for child support, division of assets and liabilities and all other related issues. Basically, it is a tool often used so that the parties can declare themselves divorce, but the proceedings continue the path they were on.
The difficulty is, when one party sees this, it may cause panic, tears, concern and frustration. Actually going about the process correctly takes finesse, patience and understanding for the other party. Explain to them that they are not stopped from getting matters resolved, but simply taking care of one issue, the actual marriage that still holds them as "husband and wife."
When going through such a process, make certain that you have certain things in place like a provision that the Final Judgment does not preclude further action. However, in regards to child support, Florida law makes it clear that you cannot actually negotiate away your right or responsibility to child support.

In Florida, the statutes regarding paternity, child support, visitation and custody have different laws when dealing with an out-of-state parent. I am a Jacksonville area divorce and family law attorney and recently I had a case involving a mother and child that reside here and a father that lives out-of-state. The issue that was difficult to overcome is, "which court is proper to bring actions regarding the child?"
Florida Statute 48.193 requires that the out-of-state resident to have some form of contact with the State of Florida. While the presumed father has the option to prevail on this issue if he has not been in Florida, nor was the child conceived in Florida, that does not resolve the issue for the presumed father.
Once a child resides in Florida, the Florida courts have jurisdiction over that child through the UCCJEA and Florida Statute 61.514. Therefore, all actions dealing with visitation and custody must be brought in Florida, so an out-of-state court may be required by the presumed father, to determine paternity and possibly child support, but if the father wants visitation with the child, he will be required to file in Florida.
Also, if any of the actions in Florida Statute 80.2011, then Florida can have jurisdiction over all aspects involving the child, regardless of the other party's contacts with Florida.
Basically, if someone brings the issue of jurisdiction when dealing with a child, the individual will most likely have to hire an attorney in two (2) states as opposed to one (1). It ultimately makes more sense for all actions to be handled in one court and one state and to save the cost for attorneys.

International adoptions are popular not only among Madonna and Angelina Jolie, but Jacksonville, Florida residents as well. As a family law attorney I have clients call once they adopted out of the country and they want to make certain their adoption is legal in the U.S. and in Florida.
Once a child is adopted by a foreign court that document finalizing the adoption can be accepted by the Florida courts as well. The procedure for doing so is important to protect yourself and any issues that may arise regarding that child.
The Florida courts do recognize foreign decrees, foreign orders, but you must petition the court to recognize the decree or order. It is best to speak with an attorney regarding this matter to make certain that all requirements are met from the beginning to speed up the finalization of your adoption which has clearly been a long time coming at this point.

Madonna's, have made the news for years in Jacksonville, Florida and throughout the country. As a family law attorney in Jacksonville, I have clients call to find out the process for such adoptions.
The reality is, as evident in Madonna's current court case in Africa, each country has different adoption laws. In Malawi, where the child resides in Madonna's case, there is a residency requirement for adoptions. That issue, not the paternity issue, is actually what's holding things up for the adoption of Chifundo James. Madonna, feeling that celebrity and money can beat laws, is now caught up in the court system to show the best interest of the child is to be adopted regardless of the residency requirement.
This case is a good example of why the normal adopting family should first look into the laws associated with the country they would like to adopt from. You don't want to get in a situation where you required to relocate for a significant period of time if you don't have to. It's best to contact an attorney where you live to help you in your process from the beginning.

Written By: Lenorae C. Atter

Collaborative action for divorce, child support, visitation, alimony and other family law matters is not common in Jacksonville, Florida.
Collaborative Law is being practiced in most parts of the country, including South Florida, but has not found its popularity in Jacksonville yet. As a Jacksonville divorce lawyer who wants my clients walking away with a smile rather than the need for the spa, I am a huge advocate of this process. I don't think children should be the victim of their parents' inability to communicate, but should be healthier through divorce because the parents have a since of stability throughout the process. That is what is offered in a collaborative law setting. It's the attorneys and the clients, from the very beginning, agreeing that a divorce process aimed at resolving the divorce, custody, child support, marital home, assets, and finances can actually be done amicably from beginning to end.
For those of you who are skeptics, I promise it works. It brings in the two sides, but it also incorporates a neutral mental health professional, financial advisor (if needed), mental health therapists for both sides (if needed), and mental health therapists for the children (if needed). It's a way for constant fighting to be put to a halt so that you can learn to communicate, since like it or not, you are going to have issues arise during your life and the life of your children and why not figure out how to work through those than just agree to disagree for the next 80 years. Who needs the stress?

As a Jacksonville, Florida family law attorney, I have many inquiries regarding adoptions. Recently, the interest in adoptions seems to be growing, possibly due to celebrities like Angelina Jolie and Madonna. Their adoptions have made national news more than once. However, in a struggling economy, I was curious about how adoptions are being impacted and recently heard a news story on NPR related to the issue and now discovered a news article in US Today on the same topic.
According these stories, it appears that at adoption and the option for it has grown exponentially due to the economy. Many more women, especially those with children already, are choosing to place their newborns up for adoption. This decision is being exercised at a time when families are struggling to feed the ones in their home, but also want to provide life and a family to others. Those unable to have children are grateful for the influx in available babies right here in the U.S. and in Florida. At a time when people are struggling to put gas in their cars, the country's women have decided the ultimate sacrifice is their calling and these women and their families are providing others with a chance at what was once perceived as virtually impossible.
There really is a silver lining for a recession.