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A former Naples elementary school teacher has been ordered to undergo a psychosexual examination after losing custody of her two children because she posted nude photos of herself and the children on the Internet.

Nicole Amanda Newland, who is currently undergoing a divorce in Collier County from her husband Eric Newland, lost custody after the nude photos were given to state law enforcment officials by her estranged husband. She was granted supervised visits once a week and is currently facing a state charge of Neglect of Child-Without Great Bodily Harm.

Nicole Newland has been accused of posting nude photos of herself in suggestive positions on the Internet as well as describing a “rape fantasy” online. Attorneys for her husband have argued that this endangers the children and she should not be granted unsupervised custody, which she is currently seeking.

Collier Circuit Judge Elizabeth Krier ordered Newland to undergo a psychosexual evaluation prior to ruling on further custody matters.

If you are involved in a Florida divorce or child custody case, be smart about what you post on the Internet. Your Florida divorce attorney can guide you so your case will not be compromised.

For the first time in U.S. history, women outnumber men in the workplace. This is bound to have some profound implications for what is already a growing trend in child custody cases: fathers being awarded primary physical custody of their children.

Earlier this year, a feature article in Working Mother Magazine noted that there are currently about 2.2 million American women who do not have primary custody of their children. Researchers credit the increase in fathers gaining custody with the growing number of fathers’ rights groups, which are educating more men on their parental rights as well as how to successfully petition the court for custody.

The article noted that it is not unusual today to see fathers succeed at least 50 percent of the time when seeking sole custody in a contested child custody case. The report said that in the past decade, the number of fathers who gain custody of their children has doubled as men become more involved in raising their children – not only because of their increased desire to do so, but also because more mothers are in the workplace today than ever before.

In fact, 25 percent of today’s married women earn more than their husbands, which has also led to the rise of another trend: more women are paying child support and, in some cases, even alimony.

Continue reading "Nationally and in Florida, More Fathers Are Getting Custody" »

Fifteen years ago, Prince Sagala’s estranged husband disappeared with their two children. Four months ago, she found them again when she discovered her daughter’s Facebook page.

Their father – Faustino Fernandez Utrera -- had apparently fled to his native Mexico with them, after telling Sagala he was taking them to a park in 1995.

Sagala took the Facebook page to police, who were able to trace the children to Florida through her daughter’s friends on Facebook. Utrera was arrested in May and held at the Osceola County jail on kidnapping and child custody charges. He is currently awaiting extradition to California.

Sagala met her two children for a supervised visit recently at a Florida public library, but told the Associated Press that her children want nothing to do with her, having been told bad things about her by their father.

Utrera says that he took the children because his wife was having an affair with his brother and was mentally unstable. He alleges that she has always known where the children were living.

The California district attorney prosecuting the case says that while his office was aware of the allegations, the case has been investigated and they are proceeding.

Continue reading "Woman Who Found Missing Children on Facebook Discovers Other Troubles As Well" »

If your ex is considering moving to another state with your child – or if you have custody and are considering a move – a Florida family law attorney can help you understand the legal aspects of child relocation and your rights as a parent.

First, you cannot move out of state with your child without notifying the court. If you do, you risk a number of legal sanctions. Because child relocation is usually a highly emotional issue, it is important to follow the law and consider what is in the best interests of the child.

The best interests of children are what the court considers in any child relocation, custody or visitation situation. In the case of relocation, the court will likely place great weight on the impact such a move will have on each child. The court will also take into consideration the following:

• The circumstances that are causing the relocation, such as a job loss, reassignment or new employment
• Whether or not the move is motivated by a desire on the part of the custodial parent to separate the child from the other parent
• How the non-custodial parent’s visitation rights will be affected
• If the move will positively affect the child

Be sure you consult with a Florida child custody lawyer before making any move out of state with your child.

House Bill 907 was approved and signed by Governor Crist on June 3, 2010. This bill made a number of changes to child support and alimony laws.

Changes:

1. Requires child support awards to end upon the child reaching the age of majority and, where appropriate, to account for revised child support guidelines based on remaining child support owed.
2. Where the parents of a child have a high income, a different standard is applied in order to determine the amount of child support owed.
3. The bill creates a rebuttable presumption that a person can earn minimum wage as well as provides additional criteria for the establishment of an imputed income amount. Imputed income is used when one parent voluntarily quits their job or voluntarily is underemployed. It is used as a tool to better provide for the child.
4. Amends the child support formula; income tax consequences of children and their financial support are not accounted for.
5. A court can now consider a situation where a child support award requires a parent to pay an amount of support that will make that parent fall below the poverty line.
6. Reduces the 40% timesharing threshold for a child support award adjustment based on timesharing to 20%. This way the money follows the child.
7. Provides for the application of a partial payment of alimony similar to how partial payment of child support is applied.

Effects of the proposed changes:

• Termination of Child Support at Majority
o Generally an award for child support ends upon the child reaching the age of 18-years-old. However, an award may be extended in two different circumstances:
i. If the child is dependent upon his or her parents because of a mental or physical disability that existed before the child turned 18.
ii. If the child is still in high school but is expected to graduate at age 19.

• Application of Alimony Payments
o The current laws allow for partial payments of a child support obligation. However, the bill amends the current law to allow for a parallel rule regarding partial payments of alimony
o The bill also provides that interest due on past due support obligations may be enforced like any other support award, like contempt, and provides that interest is not due on the previously established interest.

• Child Support Guidelines Formula – Imputed Income
o Imputed income is what a party should be earning; it is used to determine child support rather than actual income.
o The bill creates a rebuttable presumption that each party can earn a minimum wage on a full time basis. However, this presumption can be proved invalid on a case-by-case basis.
o The minimum imputed income of a parent is the Florida minimum wage (currently $7.25). For any parent that does not reside in the state of Florida, the state’s minimum wage where that parent resides will be used. If a state minimum wage cannot be applied the federal minimum wage will apply (currently $7.25).

• Child Support Guidelines Formula Income Calculation
o The income calculation formula is a formula that calculates the net income of the parents, determines a minimum child support need, and splits that need by the shared parenting plan. This formula determines the amount of child support that is owed by on parent to the other.

An attorney should be contacted if you feel your obligations have been or should be changed as a result of this bill. To read more on this topic see House Bill 907.

As a Florida divorce attorney, I find that many of my clients are unaware of the different types of child custody that can be considered as part of a Florida divorce settlement.

In a Florida divorce action that involves minor children, there are four different kinds of child custody to be considered:

Legal Custody – Legal custody means you have both the right and the obligation to make important decisions about your child. This includes education, religion and medical care. In many cases, both parents are awarded legal custody of minor children and share the decision-making responsibility. If joint legal custody is awarded and one parent continually excludes the other from decisions about the child, that parent can be taken back to court for enforcement of the joint legal custody order.

Physical Custody – Physical custody means that one parent is given the right for the child to live with him or her. In some cases, joint physical custody is awarded – usually when both parents live near each other and the child’s life will not be unduly interrupted. In sole physical custody cases, the child lives with one parent and the other parent is granted visitation rights.

Sole Custody – A parent can have either sole legal custody or sole physical custody, or both if one parent has a history of unstable behavior such as physical or substance abuse, or criminal behavior. The courts usually prefer that parents share legal custody so both continue to play a significant role in the lives of their children.

Joint Custody – Parents can have joint legal custody, joint physical custody or both joint legal and physical custody. Parents who share joint custody usually work out a schedule based on the child’s needs, which is approved by the court. The advantage of joint custody is that it keeps both parents involved in the child’s life. Disadvantages can occur when one parent is uncooperative or harbors significant ill will toward the other, which can result in serious negative effects on the children.

Florida divorces do not mean alimony payments. Myths can be cruel to the outside world that is interested in pursuing a divorce. In Florida, there is no such thing as alimony being a certain. Myths such as the following list are created as scare tactics and used to create fear, fear would be having to pay alimony no matter what, fear would also be that you are not entitled to alimony, which is also dependent on Florida divorce law.

1. Is counseling needed before you can get divorced.
2. It matters if I or my spouse had an affair.
3. Alimony is involved in every case.

Today's topic of alimony is one that can be multiple sets of blogs, and in fact are on this site in a multitude of areas. It is a large topic because in Florida alimony is controlled by many factors: length of the marriage, contribution to the marriage, status quo of the marriage, education of the parties, and many other small details. Also, there is are different forms of alimony: permanent, lump sum, rehabilitative and bridge the gap.

If you and your spouse have two incomes, equal education and the ability to earn relatively the same income, chances are you will not be receiving nor paying alimony.

If you have been married for 17 years and one spouse has been a homemaker, given up his/her education for the benefit of the other, provided the household support instead of the income, then permanent alimony will most likely be rewarded. Permanent alimony is designed to help keep the spouses in the same lifestyle to which they have grown accustomed, but factors in the sacrifices of both parties. It is difficult to expect a spouse to enter the workforce after 17 plus years of supporting the family or other spouse by being the homemaker. The one sacrificing to stay home should not be punished for the marriage breaking.

If you have been married for less than two years, most likely your divorce will not have an alimony component. Length of the marriage holds a great weight in determining alimony. A short-term marriage, which is technically defined as anything under 10 years, does not often hold alimony. The only form that may come into play in a two year marriage is "bridge-the-gap", which is designed to help a spouse move from married to single life. This is for a set time period, often 6 months to a year.

If you have been married for 10 years, one spouse gave up entry into medical school to support the other's education and now the educated spouse is working and the sacrificing one has been earning lower income or taking care of the home, most likely rehabilitative alimony will be an issue. Rehabilitative alimony is designed to assist in educating or training a spouse so that he/she can reenter the workforce and have a chance to be self supporting.

There are obviously different scenarios for all couples and this is not a blueprint for everything related to alimony. However, it is a basic outline for what to expect in different categories of marriage. If you are thinking about a divorce know the facts not just the myths. It is always a good idea to speak with an attorney trained in family law matters so that you go into the situation armed with knowledge not fear.

Shopping for a Jacksonville divorce attorney can be challenging. The first concern people often have is the price of a family law attorney. However, the legal ramifications of a divorce are just as important, if not more so, than those that involve actually getting married. So, why do we choose to spend thousands of dollars on a wedding dress, but want to count pennies on the divorce?
First, you should know that the cost of your divorce is determined by the complexity of your case and the issues that will need to be taken care of throughout the process. Also, attorneys that practice family law a.k.a. divorce law, charge by the hour. So, a retainer secures a certain amount of hours of their time and saves you from being billed once per week for the hours they have worked. Knowing your bills makes them easier to manage. Also, you have a right to know and you should know what your attorney charges per hour and how they bill that time.
The reality is that we, as a socially, are more willing to spend money on the "fun" things in life than the "necessary" things. Women spend thousands on their dress and men spend thousands on the engagement ring because we are excited about the end result. Divorce does not hold the same excitement, so neither does paying the bill. If you are in a position where divorce has become a necessity, do not start your search for a lawyer based on the negative and worrying about the cost, but try focusing on the outcome, which will ultimately place you in a position not to worry about the next argument every time you open your eyes in the morning.
The excitement of waking up without the yelling, concern or heartbreak should be enough to motivate you outside the cost into the thinking about your future. It's not to say that all divorces need to be extremely expensive. What it does mean is that the majority of divorces that will protect your future interests effectively are also not going to a minimum. Think of it as an investment in your future and securing your future in a way that is protected by the Court.
The things you should focus on when hiring an attorney have to do with whether you and your attorney click on how you see your divorce playing out. If you think that you can agree on most things, do not hire someone that tells you not to give in. If you need alimony do not hire an attorney that will not fight for alimony. The reality is that attorneys, like wedding dresses, do come in different styles and you have to find the one that is right for you, not the one that is just priced to your liking.

Florida alimony is due for a facelift and this year's legislation has decided to do the work. Currently, Florida House Bill 907 is sitting on Governor Crist's desk for a signature. What does this mean for those who may receive or pay alimony?
Well the main change will be that "Bridge-the-Gap" alimony, which historically is designed for a determinable (by the Court) period of time to provide for support from married to single life. Now, the time-frame will be defined with a stroke of Governor Crist's pen.
According to the intent of Florida HB 907, "Bridge-the-Gap" alimony will no longer be dependent on issues surrounding the divorce, but simply a two (2) year time frame. This type of support will be available for no more than two (2) years. While some who are recipients of this type of alimony may be cringing as they read, the reality is that this may not be a bad thing for either party. The reason is, if you become too reliant on money that is only there for a short period of time, previously 1 - 5 years, then it will make the inevitable transition that much more difficult. Knowing that you only have, no matter what, 2 years to rehabilitate yourself from married to single life, actually gives you a timeframe to see where you're going and when you need to get there.
The pie in the sky can be a bitter sweet transition in the family law world. However, what about the reality that some individuals may need more education? Well, rehabilitative alimony is getting a few nips and tucks, but it is still going to be an option.
The difference between "Bridge-the-Gap" and "Rehabilitative" is that the first is designed to smooth the transition so that you have additional income to help support your bills until you can get them reduced. The latter, rehabilitative, is designed for the individuals that need just that, rehabilitation into the working world. For some couples, one may not have finished college because s/he was supporting his/her spouse and now to get back into the working world s/he needs to finish school. This may be a two year process or a five year plan, it is dependent on the need and history of the marriage (length, standard of living, educational history, etc.).
Due to possible changes in the Florida law, it is vital that you find out your options from someone qualified to inform you of them. Contact an attorney about when these changes, if signed, will take affect and how they may affect you.

Florida child support is not designed to hurt your bank account. In Florida, child support guidelines use the incomes of the parties with a few credits given: childcare costs (who is paying?) and health insurance (who is paying?).
First, the income of the parties and their percentage to the overall household is how guideline support is determined. For instance, if you W makes $50,000 per year and H makes $50,000 per year, then the combined income is $100,000 per year and each is contributing 50%. So, if the child support calculation is $1000.00, then the parent without the majority of time with the child will pay $500.00.
The cost of child care is factored in, and the person paying gets a 75% credit of the money paid. Therefore, if childcare is $100 per month paid by W, W will get a credit of $75.00. The same is true with insurance payments.
Child support is based on the monthly income of the parties since child support will be paid monthly. Payments can be made on the payroll cycle of the responsible party.
Child support is NOT designed to put money in the other party's pocket. It is actually calculated to provide for a portion of the child's expenses, including but not limited to: a roof, utilities, food, gas in a vehicle to get the child to/from school, clothing, school supplies, shampoo/conditioner and toothpaste. It is everything the child needs and would have if the child's parents were still living in the same home. The child's well-being should not be and is not dependent on a on one-income household simply because the child's parents are no longer together.
If you have questions about child support, establishing or modifying what is owed, you should contact an attorney for a true calculation to be completed on your behalf.

As a Jacksonville, Florida divorce attorney, I recognize the reality that most divorces are never final. If the divorce has the following components: alimony, child support, debt distribution, marital home division, etc., it is likely an issue will arise after the divorce is "over". Your options, if any of the above payments or ordered actions stop, is to file a Motion for Contempt against the other party. However, if you are the payor or the offending party and the reason you have ceased action per the court order is for reasons outside your control (loss of employment, injury, etc.), then you have the option to file a Supplemental Petition to Modify the prior order.
Contempt is when one is voluntarily not complying with a court order. If the individual is found in contempt, the non-offending party can ask for attorney fees and costs be paid by the one in contempt. Also, if the party is held in contempt fines can be assessed and, depending on the severity, jail time can be ordered.
Modification of an order is when one's circumstances have involuntarily and substantially changed. In today's economy modifications are prevalent. In Florida, child support is simply a statutory calculation based on the incomes of the parties. If the income of one party has been decreased or increased by more than 15%, then that is a substantial change and a petition for modification should be filed.
Do not become the victim of circumstance, take a proactive approach and modify your divorce order before you are held in contempt. If you have been the receiving end of someone not complying with a court order or you are experiencing a change in your circumstance that could lead to a modification, do not hesitate to look into your options. Attorneys can help explain your rights and the best course of action for you to take.

Florida children that are the product of divorce are now a familiar with
visitation planning. Florida timesharing plans came into law in 2008 and
were introduced to help ease the need for a custodial parent to be
determined. It was also developed to keep the children's interest in
the forefront of the divorce or child custody action. The question is, in a world not capable of consistent time management, how are the children really impacted by
this plan change?
In 2010, in Florida and throughout the US we, as a society make work more important than our kids and our health. Time
management becomes important when exercising timesharing with your
children. Calendaring your days, your child's activities and family
gatherings/vacations. To make the judicial system work for you, manage
your time with your kids as if they are the next customer to contract
with you. You would not blow off a meeting with an investor so don't
do it to your kids.
If you see that there is a constant issue with your timesharing plan,
then modify it. If there is a substantial change in circumsance,
modifications of your final order are allowed. Do not become a victim
or allow your child to become a victims if a poorly executed
timesharing agreement, contact an attorney regarding your options.

Florida paternity is established by marriage or the Court, not by signing a Birth Certificate. A Birth Certificate does nothing more than give the presumption that you are, in fact, the father of your child. If you are not married to the mother ( at least 10% of couples living together are not married), then the Court does not recognize you as the baby's daddy.
To establish your rights to the child, it is important that you speak with an attorney so that your child does not grow-up without you. What you need to ask your attorney:
1. How do I file a Petition to Establish Paternity?
2. Do I need to take a Paternity test?
-- This is dependent upon whether the parties agree with each other, if there is reason to believe you are not the father, or if another man is listed as the father on the birth certificate.
3. How is Florida child support determined?
4. How is visitation determined?
-- Florida now has a timesharing plan that needs to be filed with the Court. This can be visitation that ranges from every-other-weekend to 50% of the time, if not more.
5. Is there a way to do this with the Mother agreeing?
-- If you and the mother can work an agreement on a number of the issues, it still needs to be formalized with the court. However, you can file a consent agreement, meaning you both agree to the above issues regarding your child.

Larry King filed for his eighth divorce last week. In his petition for divorce, he requested joint custody of the children. Wife, Shaun Southwick, filed a counter-petition requesting full custody of the children, child support and alimony.

A petition for divorce is one that lays out the reasons for the divorce, which are often summarized as "irreconcilable differences." The petition is also where one addresses their needs from the outcome of the divorce: alimony, child support, division of property. In order for both parties to have their needs heard by the Court, often, the party originally served with the petition will file a counter-petition, which lays out their needs and wants. That is how the Larry King divorce has two filings in one case.

In their upcoming battle, the Court and the parties will have to determine the basis for all of the requests made in both of their petitions. Simply by asking for the sun, moon and stars does not equal delivery of the same. Shawn Southwick will be required to show evidence as to why Larry King does not deserve equal timesharing with their children. She will also have to show why she is entitled to alimony and whether that should be offset by the alimony she is requesting. Typically, alimony is considered an income and child support is based on the incomes of the parties.
As this plays out, the Larry and Shawn have a number of things to work out and hopefully the children will not be the losers behind this eighth inning.

Filing for divorce, child support or timesharing modifications in Florida require that you be a resident of the state. Residency is determined based on Florida Statute 61.021, which requires that an individual be a resident of Florida for at least six (6) months prior to filing an action within the State Court.
Residency can be determined by a number of factors, the most common of which is your drivers license. If you have moved to Florida, make certain to get your new drivers license immediately, so that you can prove your residency when the time comes.
Another way to prove residency is by providing a lease agreement, utility bills, or by having an affidavit signed by a neutral third party that can verify you have lived in the State for the required period of time.
There are emergency situations that can provide access to the Court without meeting the residency requirements, but meeting those requirements can be challenging.
If you have just moved to the State and are in need of any family law services (divorce, child support modification, etc.), upon consulting with an attorney be certain to let him know when you moved to the State. That way you are getting the most accurate information at the beginning.

World famous broadcaster and renowned interviewer Larry King and his wife Shawn Southwick each filed for divorce on Wednesday, April 14. The couple has been married for over 10 years and have two young children. Larry King, 75, has been married 8 times to seven different women. He married one of his ex-wives a second time.

The couple has reportedly had ongoing problems in their marriage including an allegation that King had an affair with Shawn's sister Shannon Engemann, although King and Engemann both deny the affair. King has told the press that he did not sign a prenuptial agreement with Southwick. King is reportedly worth over $100 million. In California married couples split earnings acquired during the marriage.

In Florida, the equitable distribution of marital property is one of the most litigated aspects of divorce. There are a number of laws you need to know about if you are getting divorced in Florida. A Florida Family Law Attorney can help you preserve your rights and protect your property. Navigating the Florida Family law statute by yourself can be a dangerous proposition. Final divorce judgments can have adverse, long-lasting consequences. If you have questions about a divorce contact a Florida Family Law Attorney.

The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children reports that three hundred and fifty thousand children are abducted by a family member each year. The abductions are usually committed by a non-custodial parent who is unhappy with the child custody arrangement mandated by the court.

Representative Darryl Rouson, a Democrat from St. Petersburg, Florida, recently introduced a bill to the Florida House that would help protect Florida’s children from parental abductions. House Bill 787, also called the “Child Abduction Prevention Act” gives judges more discretion to fight familial child abductions.

The act identified risk factors that the courts may consider in a child custody case, to determine if a child is at an increased risk of abduction by the non-custodial parent or other family member. If the judge determines that there is a real risk of domestic or international abduction, he or she may put in place preventative measures that will help keep the child safe. These can include requiring the non-custodial parent to seek written permission to travel with the child across state lines, or to post a bond when travelling out of the country with the child.

Representative Rousson says that if the bill becomes law, Florida can expect to see a reduction in abductions, as well as the court and law enforcement resources required to deal with them.

Read more details of the proposed bill to protect children from parental abduction at Representative Rouson files The Child Abduction Prevention Act.

If you are involved in a divorce or child custody negotiation, please contact our Jacksonville, Florida divorce law firm.

If one person does not agree to the relocation, the parent must file a Petition to Relocate Minor Children with the court. The petition must be served on any parties who are entitled to partial custody or visitation with the child. The petition must include the proposed new location, the date of the requested relocation and give detailed reasons for the request along with any evidence of the cause of the relocation, such as a new job offer. It must also include a proposed visitation schedule, including proposed travel arrangements.

The other parties served with the petition have twenty days to object to the court in writing. If they fail to do so the court will allow the relocation, as long as it is in the best interest of the child. If you would like to relocate and are subject to a child custody agreement, it is best to consult a qualified attorney who can help make sure all of your paperwork is in order and that you are in compliance with the law.

Read more details of the Florida law governing relocation of minor children after divorce at Florida Laws Regarding Relocation After Divorce.

If you are involved in a divorce or child custody negotiation, please contact our Jacksonville, Florida divorce law firm.

When Jason Jackson was two years old, his mother’s boyfriend killed her, then shot Jason in the head before shooting himself. Jason survived the shooting, but it cost him his mobility on the right side of his body.

Jason’s grandfather, Duncan Jackson, took custody of his disabled grandchild, and has refused to let Jason’s disabilities get in the way of his education or self-confidence. So Jackson enrolled Jason in Jump Start Strings, a program offered by the Jacksonville Symphony Orchestra in conjunction with Communities in Schools. Jason has learned to play the violin, and built his self-esteem through a program that focuses on what he can do rather than what he can’t.

Grandparents are increasingly taking on the roll of primary caregiver for children across the country. Census figures reveal that 8 percent of children in the US – 5.7 million –are living with their grandparents rather than their parents. Unfortunately, grandparents are usually called on to step in when violence or crime takes a parent out of the picture, like in the case of Duncan and Jason Jackson. According to the Annie E. Casey Foundation, 1.5 million American children have at least one parent behind bars, and the number of women in prison has increased fifty seven percent between 1995 and 2005.

In Jason Jackson’s case, he is very lucky to have a loving grandparent to take custody of him, and take such an interest in his well-being. You can read more about Jason’s story at Grandparents often forced to become parents, again.

If you are involved in a divorce or child custody negotiation, please contact our Jacksonville, Florida divorce law firm.

I recently wrote a blog article about dissolution of marriage in Florida. Today I am going to cover one of the types of dissolution available, called a “Regular Dissolution of Marriage.” This is the most common type of dissolution in Florida.

To start the regular dissolution process, either the husband or the wife may file a petition of dissolution of marriage with the circuit court, stating that the marriage is “irretrievably broken” and setting out what he or she wants from the court. The other party then has twenty days to file an answer to the original petition. When they do so, they have the right to address the matters laid out in the original petition and to add any other issues they want to be addressed by the court.

Florida family law court rules require that the two parties then provide each other with certain financial documents and a financial affidavit within forty five days or before any at temporary relief hearing. If either of the parties fail to provide the required information, the court may dismiss the case or not consider the requests of the non-compliant party. Both parties to the divorce or the court can change these requirements, except for the financial affidavit, which is mandatory if financial relief is sought in the case.

Couples may agree on all terms before or soon after the initial petition is filed, in which case they sign a written agreement which is presented to the court. In these uncontested cases, the divorce can be made final in just a few weeks. If the parties cannot agree, they may be required to seek mediation and may end up in a trial before a judge.

The more a couple can agree on, the easier the process is for them and for any children involved. Find out more about regular dissolution of marriage in Florida at Divorce In Florida.

If you are involved in a divorce or child custody negotiation, please contact our Jacksonville, Florida divorce law firm.

Arnold Rice Sharkey, a veteran officer of the Jacksonville police force, was arrested recently and charged with aggravated assault with a deadly weapon and domestic aggravated assault. Officer Sharkey allegedly used his Chevrolet as a weapon against his estranged wife, Victoria Sharkey, and her brother.

According to Ms. Sharkey, who filed for divorce in January of 2009, Sharkey visited her at her place of employment earlier in the afternoon that same day. He later drove by her office again just after five pm and then parked down the street from the entrance to the building.

When her brother picked her up from work at 5:30 pm, Sharkey allegedly attempted to block Ms. Sharkey and her brother from leaving with his car, then went around behind their vehicle and pursued them down New Berlin Road, bumping their vehicle from behind. After bumping the vehicle three times, Sharkey’s vehicle flipped over and landed in a ditch.

Sharkey was taken to Shands Jacksonville for treatment of his injuries, and was later taken to jail. Sharkey told police that he went to see his wife because of a custody dispute; he said that she was not allowing him to see their children, and he hoped to convince her to take him to see them.

Read more about this alleged incident of domestic violence over child visitation issues at Jacksonville officer charged in ramming vehicle in domestic incident.

If you are involved in a divorce or child custody negotiation, please contact our Jacksonville, Florida divorce law firm.

Christopher Stokes and Richard Douglas snatched an eight year old child from his father’s arms and then called police to ask if they were acting in accordance with the law. Apparently, the child’s mother, Laporsha Davis, believed that her estranged husband and child were homeless and living on the streets, so she asked the two men to take the child away from him.

The two approached George J. Davis as he stepped out of a cab. They demanded that he hand over the child, and when he refused they grabbed the boy and drove off with him. Davis recognized one of the men as a friend of his wife’s. He called his brother, who then called 911. Davis told police that he had actually been on the phone with Ms. Davis when the abduction took place. She had told him that she was planning to take the child away because she believed that he was not taking proper care of him.

When police contacted Ms. Davis, she admitted to asking the men to take the child, but did not want to tell police where they had taken him or contact them to ask them to return him. An hour after the kidnapping, a 911 operator received an anonymous call from a man inquiring about Florida child custody law. He asked if a parent could give verbal consent to give up custody of a child or if "there was paperwork involved." The operator told him it was felony kidnapping and he hung up.

Police were able to track the cell phone the caller used to find the two men and the child. The men are facing felony charges of interfering with child custody. Find out more details of this child custody battle at Police: Men snatched child from dad at I-Drive motel.

If you are involved in a child custody negotiation, please contact our Jacksonville, Florida divorce law firm.

What eHarmony is to dating and marriage, Facebook is becoming for divorce. According to a recent article on Florida divorces, Facebook provides Florida spouses with fertile ground for rekindling old flames and posting all sorts of self-incriminating evidence for the rest of the world to see. It also provides a public soapbox for couples to air their dirty laundry.

Once one partner posts something nasty, the other can’t help but respond and then a tiff turns into all out war. Experts predict that the public meltdown of marriage and relationships will only increase as the YouTube generation starts to marry – and divorce.

A survey by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers showed that more than 80% of divorce attorneys have dealt with a divorce that involved Facebook. MySpace and Twitter were also mentioned. The social media phenomenon is actually helping divorce attorneys gather evidence for their clients. Now instead of hiring private investigators, they can simply log on and capture screen images of the other spouse’s social media accounts.

One Florida woman recently lost her hard-won broad custody of her child after posting suggestive photos of herself out drinking with the caption “Precursor to a DUI?”

Because Florida divorce cases are decided by a judge, scandalous photos are less likely to sway opinion than in a jury case. Also, Florida law is focused on moving forward, not dwelling on past mistakes, and encourages shared child custody. That still doesn’t stop feuding couples from gathering all the ammunition they can online and taking it to court. Read more about how social media sites like Facebook are affecting Florida divorces at Facebook plus divorce equals flammable situation.

If you are involved in a divorce, please contact our Jacksonville, Florida divorce law firm.

In Florida, the official term for divorce is “dissolution of marriage.” Many states, Florida among them, have done away with fault as grounds for divorce. This was done to lessen the potential harm to the family that might be caused by the divorce process. Fault may however be considered for determination of alimony, equitable distribution of assets, or determination of a parenting plan.

Either partner may file for the divorce. It must only be proven that a marriage existed, that one of the spouses has been a resident of Florida for at least six months immediately preceding the filing, and that the marriage is irretrievably broken.

In addition to the irretrievably broken ground for divorce, there is also a seldom-used incompetency ground; the competent spouse must prove that the other spouse has been incompetent for at least three years before the filing for this ground to be used.

The actual divorce process is an emotionally trying time for the parties involved. Floridians often do not know their rights and responsibilities in a divorce. While court clerks and judges can answer some questions, they are prohibited by law from giving legal advice.

A Florida family law attorney can answer your legal questions and advise you on your rights, your children’s rights, your property rights, your responsibilities and even your tax liabilities during a divorce.

Before filing for a dissolution of marriage, it is prudent to make sure that you have tried as hard as you can to save your marriage. Professional marriage counselors can help you and your spouse work out your difficulties and make your marriage stronger than ever. Many Florida communities and religious organizations offer free or inexpensive counseling services to help save your marriage. Your lawyer can also recommend a qualified professional in your area. Find out more about this topic at Divorce In Florida.

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When divorced Florida parents are forced to deal with child custody issues, tempers can run high – especially if the divorce was not amicable and the parents disagree with the approved parenting plan. Now those parents will have a way to better handle disagreements and build better relationships with their children. A help line has been set up for Lauderdale County, Florida parents that can help them get through child custody issues with less anger and frustration. This is important because fights between divorced parents can cause lasting emotional scars on their children.

The help line, which falls under the umbrella of Families First, offers parents a third party to help them manage and solve parenting disputes. When a call comes in, volunteers talk with both of the parents to help them diffuse angry feelings and come to a suitable compromise.

The line is staffed by twenty one volunteers, who are required to complete a six week training course before answering the phones. The Lauderdale center fields around fifty calls per month. The help line has been so successful in Lauderdale County that a task force has been created to investigate establishing call centers in other areas in Florida, including the Jacksonville, Florida area.

Read more about the co-parenting help line at Help line lessens tensions.

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Joseph Reyes of Chicago Illinois was raised Catholic, but converted to Judaism when he married his wife, Rebecca, who is Jewish. The couple is now involved in a bitter divorce battle, which includes questions about which religion their daughter will be raised in. The family law judge assigned to the case, Edward R. Jordan, had barred Reyes from taking his three year old daughter to church.

Reyes defied the order and was brought back to court on charges of indirect criminal contempt. He has pleaded not guilty to the charges. If found guilty, he could face six months in jail. Reyes asked to have his contempt charges heard by a different judge, and Judge Elizabeth Loredo-Rivera presided over his arraignment.

The girl has been in the custody of her mother since the marriage ended, and has been raised in the Jewish faith. The court order barring Reyes from taking his daughter to church was precipitated when he had her baptized without his wife’s permission. When Ms. Reyes found out about it, she asked the judge for a temporary restraining order. Judge Jordan then imposed a thirty day restriction against Reyes exposing his daughter to any religion other than Judaism.

When Mr. Reyes brought his daughter to church after the restraining order was handed down, he called the media. He was later featured talking about the order on Good Morning America. Ms. Reyes’ attorney has charged that Reyes is not particularly religious, and implied that Reyes is grandstanding. Read more about the case at Dad Pleads Not Guilty on Violating Court Order For Taking Daughter to Church.

If you are involved in a custody battle, please contact our Jacksonville, Florida law firm for legal counsel.

Sergeant Jeffrey A. Grahn of the Clackamas County, Oregon Sheriff’s office was the last person anyone would suspect to go on a shooting spree that ended in him taking his own life. Grahn was a big proponent of trauma intervention, and even taught a course on it at the Clackamas Community College to help volunteers learn how to effectively help people in crisis.

But Grahn and his wife, Charlotte, were in the middle of negotiating their divorce, and the stress apparently took its toll on him. On a recent Friday afternoon Grahn went and found his estranged wife at a bar with friends. He asked her to step outside, where he shot and killed her. He then went back into the bar and shot two of his wife’s friends, killing one and injuring the other. He then left the bar and shot and killed himself outside.

The murder/suicide has seriously affected this small Oregon town. The Sheriff is left wondering why Grahn didn’t take advantage of the employee-assistance program, peer-support team, or chaplain services his office has in place to help officers through personal troubles. To read more about this tragic incident, visit Before his own burst of violence, Clackamas deputy worked in trauma intervention.

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William Drayton Jr. is best known by his stage name, Flavor Flav. Recently, the 1980’s rap star from the group Public Enemy has made a big comeback by appearing on such reality TV shows as The Surreal Life, Strange Love, and Flavor of Love. But according to the Albany, New York Child Support Collection Division, Drayton owes back child support payments to Mary Parker, the mother of three of Drayton’s children.

Drayton will be required to appear in court to answer charges that he owes Ms. Parker over sixty three thousand dollars in back child support payments and private school tuition. The back child support payments are due to a judge increasing Drayton’s responsibility from just over one hundred dollars per week to over eight hundred dollars per week, and making the ruling retroactive to 2008, when Ms. Parker originally filed an amendment to the child support agreement.

Drayton plans to contest the charges, claiming that he has regularly paid Ms. Parker more than he was required to by the original agreement. Drayton’s recent success has prompted several other complaints from family members, including a daughter who said that he reneged on an offer to pay for her last semester in college. Karen Ross-Fortunate is the mother of three of Drayton’s other children, and has charged that he has not financially supported her children either. Drayton has seven children.

In Florida you can file for a modification of a child support obligation if there has been a significant change in circumstances or the modification is at least a 10% difference between the existing amount and the proposed amount or $25 per month. The distinction is dependent on the length of time it has been since the child support order was entered. A can help you get a child support modification.

If you are having trouble collecting your child support payments, please contact our Jacksonville, Florida law firm for legal counsel.

Read more about Flavor Flav’s child support troubles at http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/local/ct-met-adoption-difficult-20100214,0,7012433.story.

News of the World, a British tabloid, recently ran a front page story purporting to describe all the details of Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie’s divorce, including financial and child custody negotiations. The problem is that the Hollywood power couple claims they are not splitting up, and they have filed suit against the paper for making “false and intrusive allegations” about their relationship.

The LA divorce attorney reported by the News of the World to be involved in drawing up separation papers for the couple has made a statement denying any contact with the family by herself or any member of her firm.

According to lawyers for the family, News of the World has refused to retract their story or apologize for their content. Further, the stories have been widely republished, using the original story as source material. The paper has declined to comment about the lawsuit.

Since the rumor has started about the impending divorce, Jolie and Pitt were seen together with their son Maddox in Miami, Florida at the Super Bowl. Read more details about the lawsuit over phony divorce reports at BRAD PITT AND ANGELINA JOLIE TAKE LEGAL ACTION OVER SPLIT CLAIM.

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Studies have shown that fifty percent of children of divorce in Florida and nationwide have problems later in life that are related to their parents’ split. Author Tony Rassini has just released a new book, entitled "Dad, It's Time to Tell the Truth!" Discover what happens when two parents hate each other more than they love their kids, which he wrote partly to help his son deal with the aftermath of his own “ugly” divorce.

The book is written as a memoir, and follows Rassini’s attempts to be a good father to his four children during and after his bitter divorce. He documents his interactions with lawyers, doctors, and the courts, and looks at how all of these interactions affected his children. In the end Rassini realized that the only thing he had to give his son was the truth.

Divorce is a difficult time for both adults and children. Being age-appropriately open and honest with all family members is the best way to smooth over hard feelings and ensure that all parties can get on with their lives without any lasting scars. Reading about Rassini’s journey can help others going through divorce realize that they are not alone. One of the most important factors in the divorce process is having a family law attorney who will advocate on your behalf while also knowing how to avoid needless litigation which ultimately costs you extensive amounts of money and possibly the respect of your family members.

If you are considering divorce, please contact our northeast Florida firm for legal counsel.

You can read excerpts from the book at Father Loses it All and Mends Relationships with His Children.

Henry Lisowski allegedly threatened his ex-wife with murder two years before she disappeared in March of 2008. After several months of searching for the woman, police received a letter from Lisowski saying that his wife had died and that he had thrown the body in a dumpster. Prosecutors maintain that the man killed his wife because she was taking him to court for child support. Defense attorneys claim that his wife died from falling down the stairs and Lisowski hid the body because he was afraid her death would look suspicious.

At the time of Ms. Lisowski’s disappearance, Lisowski had been ordered to pay $1000 a month in child support, and a hearing had been scheduled to determine if he had underreported his income in order to avoid paying more. It later turned out that he had underreported his income by over one hundred percent.

When questioned by police about his wife’s disappearance, Lisowski claimed that she was a drug addict and believed that the drug cartel had gotten to her. Lisowski had fresh scratch marks across his cheek when he was questioned. He also expressed no interest in taking the children into his home.

If Lisowski is convicted, he could face life in prison. See more details of the murder trial at Prosecutor: OB man killed estranged wife over child support dispute.

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A Jefferson City, Missouri woman, Terri Chilton, has been arrested and charged with first degree endangering the welfare of a child. The victim was her own one year old granddaughter, whom Ms. Chilton allegedly fed blood thinners in order to make the child ill.

Ms. Chilton reportedly engaged in a series of actions designed to make the girl’s parents believe that she had ingested rat poison. She has claimed that she committed these acts in the hopes that the child’s illness would prompt her parents to reconcile; their marriage was reportedly in trouble and the two are in the process of getting a divorce.

The poisoning caused the child to bleed uncontrollably from her mouth, nose and two minor scratches. She survived the bleeding, but it is unclear if there was any permanent organ damage caused by the blood thinners.

Ms. Chilton has been charged with these crimes but is innocent until proven guilty. That anyone, especially a relative, would intentionally feed poison to a small child is unthinkable.

Find out more about this topic at Terry Chilton, 41, Accused of Drugging One-Year Old Granddaughter With Blood Thinner.

Linda and David Pfeiffer of New London, Connecticut already had an adopted son, Darius, and they were not looking to have another child. But when a family friend from Jacksonville, Florida became pregnant and did not believe she was able to care for the child herself, she asked if the Pfeiffers would raise her child. Linda and David agreed, and they adopted Reylani soon after she was born. As part of the process, they flew to Florida and met with an attorney and had the birth parents sign a termination of parental rights.

It was only two weeks later that Linda Pfeiffer received a text message from the child’s birth mother, saying that Reylani’s biological father might actually be a different man. That man filed a paternity suit in Jacksonville Circuit Court and had his paternity confirmed with a DNA test. According to Florida law, a father must assert his paternity by filing the Florida Putative Father Registry Claim of Paternity claim before the child is born. Normally, this man would have no case. However, the child’s biological father is in the Navy, and he is arguing that he should retain his rights under the Servicemembers Civil Relief Act, which allows service members certain legal protections when they are on active duty. According to the Pfeiffers, the biological father knew that the mother was pregnant and was not at sea during the pregnancy, meaning he had ample opportunity to file for paternity during the legal window. The birth mother and biological father have since married.

In March a judge awarded custody to the biological parents, and the Pfeiffers were required to hand her over to them. The couple has since turned the Pfeiffers away when they flew to Florida in hopes of seeing Reylani. The Pfeiffers have filed an appeal to a panel of three judges, and are awaiting final word on their case. If you have questions regarding your rights as a biological parent or an adoptive parent in Florida you should contact a Florida Family Law Attorney.

You can read more about this tug of war over a Florida infant at Legal twist wrenching family apart.

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Many people feel that asking for a prenuptial agreement is the end of romance. Others believe that prenuptial agreements are only for the rich. Neither of these statements is true. Prenuptial agreements are appropriate in a number of situations and should be seriously considered before entering into a marriage, which is a legal partnership. A prenuptial agreement is a signed contract that spells out exactly how a couple will handle different aspects of their marriage to include finances, real and personal property, alimony, and several other concerns that often arise throughout the marriage and possibly in a divorce. While this may not seem very romantic, it can be an empowering and positive experience. Probably for these reasons, more and more “average” couples are signing these agreements lately.

Some of the benefits of a “prenup” include facing financial details and discussing them openly, preserving inheritance or the financial well-being of children from a previous marriage, protecting business assets, spelling out financial expectations, and reducing battles over finances in the case of divorce. Of course, there are drawbacks as well; agreements can be set aside if they are found to be fraudulent, unfair or signed under duress. They can be perceived as not being romantic and can imply a lack of trust between partners.

If you are considering a prenuptial agreement, remember a few key points:
- Don’t wait until the last minute. Springing an agreement on someone days before the wedding is not a good idea.
- Don’t hide your feelings or your assets.
- Each person should hire his or her own attorney.

Call a Jacksonville Family Law Attorney to help you understand your options with marital agreements.

Find out more about this topic at Prenuptial Marriage Agreements.

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Tennis star Chris Evert and golfing legend Greg Norman were married for fifteen months before their marriage ended in divorce recently. A close family friend to Ms. Evert is now speaking to the media, saying that the marriage failed due to the stress Ms. Evert felt balancing her time between her husband and her three teenage sons from a previous marriage. The source reported that there was tension between the two over Norman’s extensive travel schedule and Ms. Evert’s desire to spend time with her children. During the marriage Ms. Evert did spend quite a bit of time travelling with Norman, but now says she regrets the decision, according to the friend.

Ms. Evert is now reportedly enjoying more time with her sons, Alex, Nicky and Colton, aged eighteen, fifteen and thirteen, respectively. Ms. Evert and Norman finalized their divorce in December of 2009 at the Monroe County Courthouse in Key West, Florida. Neither Ms. Evert nor Norman had any comment on the divorce.

Marriage is difficult, and competing loyalties between a new spouse and the children from a former marriage can add a layer of stress to a marriage that is hard to deal with. In this case, unfortunately the couple was not able to overcome their differences. Read more about the Florida divorce of Chris Evert and Greg Norman at Why Did Chris Evert and Greg Norman Divorce?

If you are thinking about a separation or divorce, please contact our Jacksonville, Florida area law firm for legal representation.

Bristol Palin, the nineteen year old daughter of 2008 vice-presidential candidate Sarah Palin, went before a judge recently to ask that her child custody battle with former fiancé, Levi Johnston, be closed. She has filed for sole custody of her son, Tripp, saying that the child’s father is too immature to be a good parent. She argued that all of the media attention would be harmful to her son, and that our modern electronic communication systems would mean that he would be able to read stories about the battle once he is old enough.

For his part, Levi Johnston is asking for joint custody and has argued to keep the case public, saying that he fears the power Sarah Palin could have over the proceedings if they are kept secret. An Alaska judge ruled that Bristol Palin had no evidence that publicity would be harmful to the child, and that the records would remain open.

In Florida, the term joint custody is no longer used. The courts use parenting plans and time-sharing arrangements to govern the rights of parents to raise their children after a divorce. The new rules can be tricky. You should speak with a Jacksonville Divorce Attorney if you have questions regarding a divorce or custody issues. Walking into family court without an attorney is like performing surgery on yourself. It's not a good idea! You should consult with a professional who knows the laws and can protect your rights.

Read more about the Palin / Johnston custody battle at Tripp Palin custody battle to be heard in public, judge rules.

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In the wake of nearly a dozen women claiming to have engaged in extra-marital affairs with golfer Tiger Woods, his wife, Elin Nordegren Woods has reportedly moved out of the couple’s mansion and moved back to Sweden, her home country. The couple does have a prenuptial agreement, but the contents of the agreements are not open to the public. The Woods’ prenuptial agreement is a premarital contract, and theirs will be governed by the Uniform Premarital Agreement Act of section 61.079 of the Florida Statutes. Their prenuptial agreement likely spells out how much alimony Ms. Woods is entitled to receive, if any, the distribution of property and other assets, and any other miscellaneous arrangements that were contemplated by the parties at the time they made the agreement . The right of a child to support may not be adversely affected by a premarital agreement. Premarital agreements, like other contracts, usually hold up in court as long as they are legally executed and do not contain unconscionable clauses. To create a premarital agreement that is legally sufficient to protect your interests you should seek the assistance and expertise of a licensed Florida Family Law attorney.

As for the children, Sam and Charlie, Florida has no presumption of marital custody, meaning that the father and the mother have an equal chance of gaining time-sharing depending on what is in the child’s best interest. Florida rules governing child custody changed substantially in 2008. The terms custody, custodial parent, non-custodial parent, visitation, primary residential parent, and secondary resident parent were eliminated from the statute. The disposition of children after a marriage is now determined by parenting plans and time-sharing schedules. These arrangements are governed by Florida Statutes chapter 61.

In light of the alleged extramarital indiscretions by Tiger Woods it is likely that Ms. Woods may have strong arguments for her to be the parent with more timesharing with the children and be entitled to receive substantial child support. In order for her to be able to move the children to Sweden with her she will have to petition the court and show why it is in the childrens' best interests. Tiger would be entitled to object to moving the children so far from the marital home. Find out more details about the prenuptial agreement at

Tiger Woods gives us pause to contemplate prenups and child custody.

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Amy and Scott Kehoe were unable to have children of their own. So they went to great lengths to hand pick an egg donor, sperm donor, and surrogate for their future child. They then hired a Michigan IVF clinic to carry out the procedure. The couple paid for everything out of pocket. But a month after the surrogate gave birth to twins, Ethan and Bridget, the Kehoes were forced to turn the children back over to the surrogate mother, Laschell Baker, who changed her mind about turning over custody of the children when she found out that Ms. Kehoe was under treatment for a mental illness. Ms. Baker, who already has four children of her own with her husband Paul, said she couldn’t live the rest of her life worrying whether Ms. Kehoe’s illness would remain under control.

Surrogacy is largely unregulated, and is controlled mostly by fertility doctors. In some states, the parents must legally adopt the surrogate child, but it creates an interesting legal conundrum, as the parents must first create the baby, which is not genetically related to them, and then ask the courts to grant them custody after the child is born. In other states, the parents are allowed to place their own names on the birth certificate without any screening, if they obtain a pre-birth order allowing it.

If a dispute arises, the outcome varies widely from state to state. In Michigan, the state holds that surrogacy is contrary to public policy and that surrogacy contracts are not enforceable, which is how Ms. Baker so easily had the Kehoe’s guardianship rescinded. Find out more about this child custody case and others like it at Building a Baby, With Few Ground Rules.

The state of Florida regulates surrogacy, with different regulations depending on if the surrogacy is traditional or gestational. If you are considering having a child through surrogacy in Florida, you will need the services of an expert family law attorney. Please contact our firm for expert legal assistance.

The strengthening Families Act of 2003 stated that thirty four percent of all American children live apart from their biological fathers. Forty percent of those children have not seen their fathers in over a year, and fifty percent of those children have never visited their father’s home. The US Census Bureau has reported that five out of six custodial parents are mothers, and that nearly forty percent of fathers have no access or visitation rights to their children.

Unfortunately, many parenting plans in Florida have restrictive visitation rules for the parent with less time-sharing, and do not promote shared parenting or the presence of a child’s father in his or her life after the divorce. Further, a national study revealed that nearly forty percent of custodial mothers admitted to interfering with the father’s visitation to punish him. About fifty percent of mothers reported that they saw no value in their child’s continued contact with the father. The result is the loss of a close relationship between the father and his child.

The fourth judicial circuit guidelines for time-sharing arrangements in the Jacksonville area are the model by which most time-sharing arrangements are designed. However, many times the parent with the most time-sharing takes matters into their own hands by not following the terms of the parenting plan and preventing the other parent from spending time with their child.

If this is happening to you there are laws that protect you. You have a right to spend time with your child. Meet with a Jacksonville Divorce Attorney and discuss what can be done to protect your rights as a parent.

Read more about the plight of divorced fathers and their children at GUEST VIEWPOINT: After divorce, fathers too often excluded from parenting .

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Single Florida parents who have custody of their child or children and serve in the military face unique challenges when it comes time to deploy overseas. Sometimes doing your military duty can mean losing custody of your children. An organization exists called Father and Families which has worked hard to pass legislation in dozens of states that could protect military parents’ custody rights.

As an example, US Army Lieutenant Colonel Vanessa Benson temporarily turned over custody of her son to her ex-husband while she was on active duty in Afghanistan. She returned home to an email from her ex-husband stating that he was not going to return her son, as agreed. Benson spent $12,000 in legal bills to get her son back.

In Florida, HB 435 is a law that helps military parents like Ms. Benson, regain custody of their children. The law states that if a temporary child custody order is made as a result of a parent being deployed, the previous custody orders in effect before the deployment must be reinstated on the parent’s return.

Many military parents in Florida, including the Jacksonville area, have had to serve in war zones overseas only to return home to a fight to enforce the judgments that they worked so hard to attain in the first place. Single military members who have custody of their children should not try to navigate the murky legal waters of the Florida family law system without the help of an experienced family law attorney. If you are a military member involved in a custody battle, you will need an expert family law attorney on your side. Please contact our firm for a consultation.

Read more about the struggles of military parents to keep custody of their children after deployment at Law Fathers & Families Helped Create Leads to Victory for High-Profile Military Parent.

In Florida, parents of children are required to comply with Section 61.13001, Florida Statutes when dealing with a parental relocation with a child. The Florida legislature and Courts recognize that a relocation of a child can be quite traumatic and life changing for both the parent and the child. It is important for parents to comply with the terms of this statute whether the relocation is agreed upon or contested. Parents should always consider the best interest of the child in making decisions including but not limited to relocation. You can read about the details of this statute at the Official Site for Florida Statutes - Section 61.13001, Florida Statutes. Reading this statute and complying with its terms can be quite confusing and stressful for many parents. As such, it is advisable to retain the services of a Jacksonville, Florida Child Custody Attorney in order to make sure that the statute is being complied with and that the best interests of the child are being met.

David Goldman of New Jersey has been battling for nearly five years to have his son Sean returned to him from Brazil. The boy was taken to Brazil by his mother, Bruna Goldman, for a two week vacation in 2004; the two never returned. While in Brazil she divorced Goldman and married an influential Brazilian attorney, Joao Paulo Lins e Silva. Ms. Silva died in childbirth last year, leaving Sean to live with his step-father.

Earlier this year, both secretary of State Hillary Clinton and President Barack Obama became involved in the case, convincing Brazilian authorities to move the case to the federal courts. The federal court ruled that Goldman should be awarded custody of his child, but Sean’s Brazilian family has appealed the decision. Now it is up to Brazil’s Supreme Court. The case will hinge on whether the court finds that the Hague Treaty, which upholds Goldman’s parental rights, is legally enforceable under Brazil’s constitution. Brazil and the US are both signatories to the Hague Treaty. A US lawmaker has planned to introduce a bill that would impose trade sanctions against Brazil until they honor the treaty’s provisions for international child abductions. Find out more about this five year long international custody battle at Brazil custody battle hangs in balance.

Any child custody dispute requires the services of an experienced family law attorney. Please contact our firm for expert legal counsel.

Christopher Alan Lynch of Palm Bay Florida, was reportedly angry about learning that his estranged wife had found a new boyfriend, and responded by holding the woman and their two children, aged eleven and fourteen, hostage at gunpoint. Police were alerted to the incident by a 911 call from the woman’s new boyfriend. The Palm Bay SWAT team was called out to the house.

The wife managed to escape around midnight and the children escaped sometime later; Lynch was apparently falling asleep intermittently. He surrendered to police in the early morning hours. He appeared to be under the influence of alcohol or narcotics, and was taken to the hospital. He has been charged with false imprisonment, child abuse, aggravated assault with a firearm and battery by strangulation. Police reported that they had been called to the house about domestic violence when the couple was still living together but that the wife had not pressed charges.

Even though this couple was not together any longer, people can become very irrational when they are hurt or angry, especially if they are using drugs or alcohol. It happens all too often that a former husband or boyfriend becomes violent when he learns that his former partner has moved on without him. If you are the victim of domestic abuse, you should seek help immediately, and then contact our firm for expert legal counsel.

Read all the details of this terrifying standoff at Father's arrest ends standoff in Palm Bay.

According to authorities, Paul Martikainen kidnapped his three-year old son, Luke Finch, escaping in a sailboat. Cocoa Beach police have reported that witnesses saw the two get into a 32-foot Bristol sailboat at Salt Creek Marina in St. Petersburg, Florida. They said the boy did not seem scared. Acquaintances of the man are worried about both father and son, saying that Martikainen has no sailing experience. According to other boaters at the marina, it is impossible for one person to sail a boat and watch a child at the same time, even for an experienced boater.

Martikainen purchased the boat less than a month ago, saying that he was buying it for someone else, and was going to fix it up and then transport it to Arkansas; he appeared to be living in the boat while he was working on it. Martikainen had further drawn attention to himself around the marina by asking other boaters how to tie different types of sailing knots. Some of the other boaters encouraged him to take sailing lessons after he told them he was going to take the boat out after Thanksgiving.

Luke was reported missing during a supervised visit with his father. He apparently slipped away from the court-appointed supervisor while they were hanging out in a Cocoa park. The supervision was ordered because of earlier allegations that Martikainen was abusing the child. An Amber alert brought in tips that helped police track Martikainen’s vehicle to the marina. Authorities believe the abduction was planned, noting that Martikainen had painted the boat gray, both to cover identifying marks and to make it hard to spot in the ocean.

Police are asking anyone with information on the missing boy to call 321-639-7620 or 911. Read more about the details behind the abduction at At St. Petersburg marina, boaters worry about father, son.

Parents going through a custody battle do not have to do it alone. Please contact our firm for expert Family Law help and advice.

November is National Adoption Awareness Month, and to celebrate, Floridians all across the state will gather at special ceremonies and community events. And Florida residents have a lot to celebrate; Florida has been recognized nationally for its success in placing foster children in permanent homes.

The success of the program is attributed to a federal funding program that allowed Florida child welfare workers to focus services on at-risk children. Florida has used the funds to provide services such as parenting classes, counseling, mentoring and enhanced support for relative adoptions. The program has reduced the number of children living in foster care and group homes by a third and has cut the re-abuse of children in half. The resulting reduction in caseloads has allowed child welfare workers to focus on getting foster kids adopted, which they have done in record numbers as well.

The program does face some problems going forward. Across the board state budget cuts could mean that Florida will fail to meet minimum state funding requirements to qualify for the federal program. And whether or not Florida makes the funding cut, the program will expire in two years. Find out more about Florida’s foster kids at Celebrate adoption.

The adoption process for anyone is delicate, and it is important to look at all aspects of your decision. Having someone leading you through it all can be helpful and make the process much easier to understand. If you are considering adoption, please contact our firm for legal assistance.

A recent study published in the Psychology of Women Quarterly paints a bleak picture for low income women who are subject to abuse. Even those who seek help for domestic violence issues suffer from depression, post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and have to deal with stressful issues like child custody and child support, unemployment and finding affordable housing. Their situation has driven many of these women to return to their abusive partner.

The study points out that most domestic violence programs are focused on getting the woman away from her abuser and starting the legal proceedings to protect her and legally dissolve the relationship if necessary. Very few offer counseling, guidance or follow up to see how the women are doing after they leave. The researchers recommend that programs be offered for these women that provide housing opportunities, job training, transportation and child care so that they do not feel forced to return to their abusive partner because they have nowhere else to go. You can read more about the study findings at Nancy Hengeveld: Without support, battered women often return to their abusers.

If you are involved in an abusive relationship, please seek help for yourself, and then contact one of our Family Law Experts for compassionate legal counsel.

Samad Nesser has tried every legal avenue to prevent his eleven year old son from being taken to France to stay with his mother and her new husband. According to Nesser, his ex-wife has allowed his son to be abused by the new husband, and suffers from sleeplessness and chest pains whenever he returns home from staying with them. Nesser is an American citizen, but his wife is not. The husband, a French citizen, used to live in Palm Beach, Florida, where he was the subject of a restraining order after allegedly breaking into his girlfriend’s home and hitting and pushing her and her elderly mother to the floor. Nesser claims that this same man locked his son in an attic and threatened to kill him.

Judge Daniel Merrit Jr. has refused to grant requests for a guardian ad litem for Nesser’s son. A guardian ad litem would spend time with the child to determine what that child wants and what is in his best interest. Merrit has also refused to let the child testify in court, and the records of the child’s counseling sessions have not been admitted due to what Nesser claims are stalling tactics on the part of his ex-wife’s attorney. At present, there is no way for Nesser to stop his ex-wife from taking their child back to France with her.

According to Florida law, when two parents have a child in Florida, they maintain their rights no matter where they might move later on. Those rights are recognized regardless of citizenship. If you are involved in a child custody battle, please contact our firm for legal assistance.

You can read more about Samad Nesser and his battle to protect his son at Concerned father: Don't let my son go.

Victoria Anderson, now aged 9, has lived with her paternal great grandmother, Marilyn Anderson, in Dayton, Ohio since she was an infant. She has gotten “parenting time” during those years with both her mother and father. Ms. Anderson objected to Ms. Hill smoking around the child during her visits, and the Warren County court ordered all parties to protect the child from second hand smoke. The Ohio 12th district court of appeals has upheld the ruling, using judicial notice to conclude that second-hand smoke is dangerous to children. Taking judicial notice was unusual in this case, because neither of the parties presented proof in court, rather the court recognized an "avalanche of authoritative scientific studies" that show second-hand smoke poses a health danger to children. This decision could now apply to many Ohio children involved in child-custody or visitation cases.

Cases like this pit a parent’s right to smoke against a child’s right to breathe fresh air. But courts have typically decided these types of cases in the best interest of the child, rather than focusing on who has the right to do what. According to non-smokers’ rights group, Action on Smoking and Health, eighteen states have ruled that smoking near a child is a factor that should be taken into consideration when deciding custody.

Find out more about what the courts have to say about smoking and other hazards at Court bans mom from smoking near child.

If you are involved in a child custody battle, please contact our firm for expert, compassionate legal counsel.

Alex Sink is the chief financial officer of Florida, and considered the leading democratic candidate for governor of the state. She recently addressed 300 attendees at a gay rights group fundraising dinner, telling them that she believed homosexuals should be legally allowed to adopt children, as long as it is in the child’s best interest. She said that judges should determine what is in a child’s best interest on a case by case basis. Florida is currently the only state to explicitly ban homosexuals from adopting.

Ms. Sink's opponent, Republican Bill McCollum, has said he would defend Florida’s ban on gay adoption. The debate comes at a time when a state appeals court is considering the case of a gay man in North Miami who wants to adopt his two foster children. The race between McCollum and Ms. Sink is considered close. Find out more about how gay issues are affecting the race at Sink backs adoption by gays, lesbians.

Any adoption will require legal pleadings, documents and proper notice. The adoption of a child is an important decision that should be handled with the services of a family law attorney to make sure procedures are followed correctly. If you are considering adoption, please contact our firm for expert legal support.

Mildred Muhammad, ex-wife of DC Sniper John Allan Muhammad, gave an interview to Larry King the night before her husband was to be executed for his crimes at a Virginia state prison. Muhammad left 10 dead in a shooting spree that his ex-wife believes was destined to end with her as its final victim.

Ms. Muhammad said she felt very guilty about the victims of her ex-husband’s rampage, which left millions of DC residents fearful of going out in public. She claims that she had done “everything I knew how to do” to bring Mohammad’s violent and abusive nature to the attention of authorities, but it wasn’t enough. And she feels ashamed for not realizing that his violent behavior would extend beyond her, to affect other people.

Ms. Muhammad had divorced her husband because of his allegedly abusive behavior towards her. Authorities maintain that Muhammad started killing random strangers as a cover up, with the ultimate goal of shooting his wife the same way, so that he could take custody of their three children. Muhammad has always claimed that he is innocent of the charges.

Ms. Muhammad has worked through her guilty feelings and is concentrating on caring for her three children during this emotional time. Muhammad’s first wife, Carol Williams, was also interviewed by King, and said she planned to visit Muhammad in prison with their son before the execution. You can read more about the interviews at Ex-wife of infamous 'D.C. Sniper' felt guilty about shootings.

Domestic violence is very dangerous behavior, and it this case is a tragic example of how far it can go if left unchecked. People who are in reasonable fear of being in imminent danger of domestic violence should take very action to protect themselves, including calling the police and taking out an injunction.

If you are a victim of domestic abuse, please contact our firm to explore your legal options.

Alaska governor and 2008 vice-presidential candidate Sarah Palin was forced to admit during her campaign that her fifteen-year-old daughter, Bristol, was pregnant. At the time the young girl and her teenage boyfriend, Levi Johnston, said they planned to marry. But they broke off their engagement earlier this year.

Now Johnston is pursuing legal action to obtain joint custody of the couple’s 10-month-old son, Tripp. He alleges that the Palin family is making it difficult for him to see his son. Sarah Palin is reportedly upset with Johnston for his upcoming appearance in Playgirl magazine. The two have had a publically strained relationship for some time. The Palin family attorney has stated publically that, according to the Palins, Johnston is always welcome to visit his son. You can read much more of the back and forth between Sarah Palin and her former potential son-in-law at Levi Johnston to Sue for Joint Custody of Son Tripp.

For unmarried or divorced parents in Florida, this case brings up some issues related to joint custody in Florida. Many Florida parents are seeking either joint custody or 50/50 rotating custody. The courts in North Florida do not really prefer this type of custody arrangement because some courts believe that the arrangement just isn't practical for the children once they start school unless the parents live within a few miles of one another and demonstrate that they can operate as a real team. If you need help with a custody issue, please contact our firm for legal counsel.

TV cooking show host Mary Jo Eustace was not very well known until her husband, actor Dean McDermott, divorced her to marry heiress and famous Hollywood actress Tori Spelling in 2006. McDermott and Spelling met on the set of a lifetime movie they were working on together. Ms. Eustace has said she was taken by surprise when her divorce garnered major media attention.

Ms. Eustace has said that her divorce was a shocking surprise as well as very public and humiliating. One of the insults the newly married couple heaped on Ms. Eustace included offering to produce a reality show where Ms. Eustace looks for a new husband. Ms. Eustace declined, and instead is launching her own reality show, which will help women in midlife reinvent themselves after divorce. And she has written a book to tell the world about the pains of her divorce; the book is entitled Divorce Sucks: What to Do When Irreconcilable Differences, Lawyer Fees and Your Ex's Hollywood Wife Make you Miserable.

In the book she talks about the divorce and her reaction to it, which has included getting over the betrayal of her husband and making more time for herself. You can read more about the new book at Life after divorce: Mary Jo Eustace enjoys her second act.

Divorce is very hard emotionally for all parties. Many people going through a divorce , especially those left for another person, are filled with anger and sadness caused by the actions of their former partner. Ms. Eustace’s book shows that, while divorce is difficult, it may the answer to a happier life. If you are considering divorce, please contact our firm for expert, compassionate legal counsel.

Australian actor Mel Gibson and his girlfriend, Russian musician Oksana Grigorieva, have welcomed a baby girl named Lucia into the world. While Lucia is Gibson’s eighth child, it is the couple’s first child together. Gibson has seven children with his former wife, Robyn Gibson. They divorced in April of this year after twenty-eight years of marriage. Gibson and Grigorieva met while filming “Edge of Reason.”

Gibson’s daughter was born in California, but if the child had been born in Florida, the new girlfriend would definitely need to file for a paternity action so that a judge could determine Mel to be the LEGAL father of the child and to have a support obligation for her. Until a judge signs an Order making Mel the legal father, the child would not be considered to be an heir at law to Mel Gibson. In sum, people who have babies out of wedlock in Florida need a paternity action even though they may be listed on the birth certificate. Until a Judge says that the father is the father, the child will not be legally recognized as the legal heir.

If you are unmarried and expecting a child, please contact our firm for family legal counsel.

Find out more about Mel Gibson's daughter, Lucia, at Mel Gibson and his girlfriend welcome a baby girl.

Recently, a married Scottish couple lost custody of two of their children after failing to comply with Scottish social services’ warnings to reduce the children’s weight. A woman in South Carolina has also lost custody of her son and is facing criminal child neglect charges after the child’s doctor reported concerns about his weight to social services. There have been several other similar cases in the US and Canada. The public may not have heard about the growing number of cases because of child privacy laws.

Many states are now considering the obesity of the children post divorce in modification actions. A modification is a change to any final divorce judgment and is based on a substantial change in circumstances of either party since the entry of the final judgment. If the final judgment grants custody to the wife and two years later the kids are 300 pounds, the courts COULD change the custody to the father if the court finds that it is in the best interests of the children to change the custody and if the courts find that the weight of the children is now a substantial change in circumstance. Now, obesity of the children could be one of the considerations in a change of custody issue and is an interesting legal argument to keep an eye on.

If you are engaged in a child custody battle, please contact our firm for expert, compassionate legal counsel.

Find out more on the issue of childhood obesity at Should Parents of Obese Kids Lose Custody?

Kate Gosselin, mother of the eight children featured in the TLC reality show, “Jon & Kate Plus 8” has been going through a very public divorce from her husband, Jon Gosselin. On a recent episode of the show, she answered questions from viewers, including whether or not she feels she would like to marry again in the future. Her answer was “I don't know, I really don't want to be married again, but I don't want to be alone. The alone-ness is really alone.”

Many people who go through a divorce feel the same way as Ms. Gosselin. Divorce is very hard emotionally for all parties. A divorce can feel very similar to the death of a loved one, and people need to allow themselves time to heal emotionally. But for many people, divorce is not the end but the beginning of their new, healthier life. And that may very well include a new romance.

If you are considering divorce, please contact our firm for expert, compassionate legal counsel.

Movie stars, millionaires and other VIPs work very hard to keep their personal details private – especially when it comes to divorce. They claim they have a greater need for concern about identity theft. For business executives, the business itself can intervene to protect confidential company information that might come out in the divorce. Of course, news organizations are fighting to keep everything in the public domain. The controversy pits privacy against the first amendment.

Certainly the same concerns exist for non-famous wealthy couples, who may want to keep their financial documents and dirty laundry out of the public domain. There are ways to keep the divorce settlement confidential in Florida, and we are a law firm that knows the ins and outs of accomplishing the goal of confidentiality in Florida for high end divorce settlements.

If you are considering divorce, and want to keep the details private, contact our firm for expert legal counsel.

Find out more about this topic at Rich, famous push for secrecy in divorce.

In Florida, the courts in Miami overturned the ban on gay adoptions in August 2009. Judge Cindy S. Lederman wrote in her opinion that excluding gay couples defeats Florida’s mission to provide all children permanent families. The state has claimed that gays are more likely to suffer from psychological imbalances and substance abuse than heterosexual couples, although several well-respected organizations have said that gay parents do not negatively affect a child’s upbringing.

A statewide resolution must be determined by an appellate court before the ban is officially lifted. Florida is the only state to ban homosexuals from adopting children. A few other states prevent unmarried persons from adopting children, which effectively bans gays, who are not legally allowed to marry in those states. Mississippi allows single people to adopt, no matter what their sexual orientation, but prohibits same-sex partners from adopting jointly.

The state attorney general's office has appealed the decision so the gay and lesbian community in Florida await the decision to see if they will have the "right" to adopt in Florida.

If you are considering adoption or another family matter that may require legal guidance, please contact our firm.

Find out more about this topic at Judge overturns Florida ban on adoption by gays.

Many clients need immediate help when they first start going through a divorce. The idea that a divorce can take many months to finalize is very upsetting for most people. But there are temporary motions that can be filed to address issues such as temporary child support, custody, possession and occupancy of the marital home and the like. Temporary orders are legally binding guidelines that both parties must follow until the divorce is finalized.

Some common items covered in a temporary divorce order include:
- An agreement not to use the other party’s credit or make a large purchase without advance written notice
- Jointly owned property cannot be sold or used for collateral
- Insurance policies must remain in effect
- A child visitation and child support agreement
- No changes should be made to retirement accounts
- Agreement as to who will remain in the family home

If you are considering divorce, please contact our firm for expert, compassionate legal counsel.

Find out more about temporary divorce orders at Temporary Divorce Orders .

Military divorces are subject to certain laws that are not applicable to civilian divorces. As an example, those active in the military are entitled under federal legislation in some cases to delay a divorce or to take advantage of court-appointed counsel. Additionally, military pensions are subject to different rules than private retirement accounts or other types of pensions. Calculating alimony and child support is also affected by federal regulations, as is the location of the actual divorce proceedings.

As a Jacksonville, Florida law firm, Wood, Atter & Wolf, P.A., specializes in military divorces and is well prepared to deal with the unique issues that a military family has to deal with, such as child custody as a result of deployment as well as how to divide and calculate military pay and pension.

If you are an active service member who is considering divorce, please contact our firm for expert, compassionate legal counsel.

Find out more about this topic at Military Law and Divorce.

For parents going through a divorce, keeping things civil can be difficult. Not keeping things civil can be difficult for the children involved. As divorcing parents are starting to look for alternatives to fighting over and in front of the kids, co-parenting classes are gaining in popularity. Co-parenting classes are designed to help parents deal with conflicts that come up about the kids after the couple has split. The classes can help parents deal with their anger and frustration in more positive ways, working together to solve issues before they became a fight.

Divorce is a hard time for children, and it is even harder if the parents are not getting along or not speaking to each other. Co-parenting teaches adults much better ways of coping with disagreements, which not only eases the burden on the children, but models positive interactions that they can use in their own lives.

If you are considering divorce, please contact our firm for expert, compassionate legal counsel.

Find out more about this topic at Divorce 101: Co-Parenting Experts Help Couples Like Jon and Kate Gosselin.

Divorces are usually marked by battles over property and child custody issues. Deciding who gets to keep the family pet can add a whole new topic for couples to fight over. Who gets to keep the dog, cat or lizard is a topic that comes up frequently in divorce proceeding, and, like everything else, can be a difficult and emotional issue to deal with.

In Florida, as in most other states, pets are considered property – which means they are subject to ownership, not custody. That means that “joint custody” is not an option in Florida. Legally property can only be awarded to one party in the divorce. A pet acquired during the marriage is considered joint marital property, even if it was given as a gift from one spouse to the other.

Couples have much more flexibility in deciding what will happen to the pet if they come to an agreement outside of court. If the divorcing couple cannot agree between themselves who should keep the pet, the judge must award it as property. Judges will consider who spent the most time with the pet, who took the most care of it and who is more bonded with the animal when making a decision.

In a divorce where a pet is involved, the couple should make every effort to find a common ground before going through the agony and expense of a court battle over a pet. While the pet may be oblivious to the battle being waged, the emotional pain is felt deeply by the couple and especially their children.

If you are considering divorce, please contact our firm for expert, compassionate legal counsel.

Find out more about this topic at Pets are property in divorce.

An emerging divorce method, using what is called a "collaborative process," brings legal, financial and mental health professionals together to help encourage cooperation between the divorcing couple. The method is starting to gain momentum as the Florida Bar has drafted legislation to codify collaborative divorces into Florida state law. The Jacksonville Bar Association recently sponsored a seminar on the topic, which drew a large percentage of mental health professionals.

Currently, collaborative divorce is a voluntary process that is entered into when a couple signs a document stating that they will not take their divorce to court. Financial and mental health counseling is included as part of the process. An added benefit is that a collaborative divorce usually costs significantly less than litigation. It also allows families to structure financial details with more fluidity than is usually the case in traditional divorce proceedings. The process not only eases the divorce process for couples and their families, it also eases the case load on family court.

Any divorce method that cuts down on fighting and animosity is good for both the couple and their children. People who are under the stress of a divorce can only benefit from having a team of professionals help them work their way through all the details amicably.

If you are considering divorce, please contact our firm for expert, compassionate legal counsel.

Find out more about this topic at Collaboration allows for a kind divorce.

by Whitney R. Lonker, Wood, Atter & Wolf, P.A.
wlonker@woodatter.com

In Jacksonville, Florida and in all counties in Florida, if children are an issue in a divorce case, the courts will require that the parents attend and complete a parenting course or divorce class. In Jacksonville, Florida, the class is called Children First In Divorce. The purpose of the class is to teach the parties how to put their emotional beliefs aside and to focus on helping the children get through this very difficult process. The Hope Haven Children's Clinic offers the class to those located in the Fourth Judicial Circuit which encompasses Duval, Clay & Nassau Counties in Florida. All states require some form of children first in divorce. Please call our firm for advice on how to set up your class and on how to proceed with your divorce.

Written By: Lenorae C. Atter
Family Law Attorney, Wood, Atter & Wolf, P.A.

In Putnam County, Florida Haleigh Cummings went to bed on February 10, 2009 and has not been seen since. The last person to see Haleigh is Misty Croslin Cummings, who was babysitting the night of the disappearance and soon thereafter married Haleigh's father. Now, the couple is divorcing and blaming the stress of Haleigh's disappearance as the reason. However, most people remain skeptical at this idea.
In Florida, there is a Husband-Wife privilege that gives spouses the ability to claim the privilege in court when their confidential conversations are questioned. This is a privilege because there is a strong public policy that spouses should be able to speak openly and honestly with one another. There was speculation that this privilege led to the marriage of Misty and Ronald Cummings after Haleigh's disappearance. Now that they are divorcing many are wondering if it means Ronald knows more about Misty Cummings's involvement in the disappearance of her stepdaughter. However, the privilege attaches even after the marriage has ended.
More on this issue tomorrow regarding the Husband-Wife privilege in cases involving crimes against children of either spouse.

By Whitney R. Lonker, Wood, Atter & Wolf, P.A.
wlonker@woodatter.com

Time after time with my child custody cases in Jacksonville, Florida and the surrounding counties such as Nassau, St. Johns, Clay and Putnam, the parties will enter into a stipulation or an agreement where each will retain all rights as mother and all rights as father and share in the parenting responsibilities of the child or children. Shared parental responsibility means that each parent retains full rights to have a say or input in major decisions regarding the child's life just as if the parents were still residing under the same roof. The question then becomes what qualifies as a major decision? Decisions such as will the child get braces, will the child get glasses, what religion will the child practice if any, to what school will the child go, how will the child be treated medically and by whom all fall under the major decision category. The gray areas appear regarding the child's hairstyle, clothing, etc. It is a good rule of thumb when the parties share parental responsibility to attempt to include the other parent in as many decisions as possible that will have an extreme affect on the child. If you have any questions regarding a divorce, child custody, child support, alimony, or modification of a final judgment matter, please call our firm for advice and support.

By Whitney R. Lonker, Wood, Atter & Wolf, P.A.
wlonker@woodatter.com

When there are young children involved in a dissolution action, the case usually has many post dissolution issues that arise as the children get older and new conflicts are created. One issue that continually appears is that the child decides the he/she would rather live with the other parent. To be able to bring a modification of a final judgment in a family law matter, the Courts require a substantial change in circumstances in order for a party to have the ability to bring the action. Many times the party attempting the modification relies on the fact that the child wants the change and that it is, therefore, in the child's best interests. However, without having a substantial change in circumstances, the requested change in custody should fail. If the child wants the change and that desire is coupled by the fact that the child was too young to express a preference in the initial divorce proceeding, then that alone is considered a substantial change in circumstances. If you have questions regarding divorce or post divorce issues, please call me at 904-355-8888.

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Are you paying child support after your rights have been terminated? Child support, according to Florida law, is the right of a child with parents living in separate households. The child support obligation begins at the child's birth if the parents are not married, even if paternity has not been established. Once paternity is established, the Court can go back two years, within the life of the child, for back child support.
If your rights have been terminated to a child, but you owe back or retroactive child support, or your support is in arrears (you have not paid regularly), then you may still pay child support after termination of your rights, but only the amount that was due as of the time your rights were terminated.
An example: A child is born outside of wedlock and the mother files a Petition to Establish Paternity. The petition is granted when the child is 2 years old and is going to be $100/month (not realistic numbers), which means the Father is $2,400.00 in arrears due. The court will have him pay $100/month + $50/month towards the arrears until they are paid in full.
Well it will take the Father 48 months or 4 years to pay off the $2,400.00. If before that time the father agrees to terminate his parental rights because the Mother has remarried and her husband wants to adopt, then the Father is still responsible for whatever the balance due is on the $2,400.00 until it is paid.
If you have any questions or concerns regarding this matter, please contact an attorney.

Written By: Lenorae C. Atter, Florida Family Law Attorney
latter@woodatter.com

In a Florida divorce, I realize there are divorce myths, which seem to circulate from Jacksonville to Miami. If you are going through a divorce there are certain myths that people seem to tell.
The most common myth for in a divorce with children is that the new time sharing law requires that you and your spouse have 50/50 visitation with the Child. This is not true. The Court looks at the best interest of the Child and in so doing, the visitation will be a factor. It is often not considered proper for 50/50 because the Child has different rules in each house, which plays a role in the child's ability to do well in school, at home and in extracurricular activities.
The second myth is that child support is negotiable. This is not true, because according to Florida Statute, a parent cannot negotiate away the Child's right to child support. Support for a child is determined on the income of both parents and tries to place the child in the same position s/he would have been had the parents stayed together.
The third is that if you aren't allowed or use the time sharing (visitation) then you do not have to pay child support. If the lack of contact is due to you or your spouse, that does not alleviate your financially responsibility to your child. Visitation does not equal child support.

latter@woodatter.com

As an attorney Jacksonville, Florida I have handled stepparent adoptions and seen the incredible impact and purpose it has for a family. If you are married and your child views your spouse as their parent, then you are probably wanting to pursue a stepparent adoption action. Whether you were previously married or had a child out of wedlock, and the other parent has not been in your child's life, then your current spouse and you may have discussed a stepparent adoption.
There are a few steps in getting a stepparent adoption and it is wise to discuss your case with an attorney that has experience in the area. However, to bring a few important issues to light I will explain the process.
1. If you are the Mother of a child and have not spoken to the child's father or have no way of contacting the child's father, then you may have to do a request into the Office of Vital Statistics Putative Father Registry. If no one has claimed that he may be the father of your child, then you will receive a certificate stating such.
2. An Affidavit of Diligent Search may need to be filed with the Court, which proves that you have looked for the other parent and have been unable to locate him/her.
3. If you do know where the other parent is, then he/she may voluntarily consent to the Termination of Parental Rights.
4. If the other parent refuses to consent, but has been absent from the Child's life for an extensive period of time, then you may file a Petition for Termination of Parental Rights that lays out the groundwork for why his/her rights should be terminated.
5. Once any or all of the above is completed, then you can file a petition for stepparent adoption.
In so doing, the stepparent is basically telling the court that she/he will be responsible for the wellfare and financial responsibilities of the Child. That she/he understands and consents to the Child having the right to claim to be his/her natural child for purposes of inheritance. That she/he has the financial ability to provide for the Child now and even if the parties (husband and wife) were to divorce.
It's an amazing process. While it sounds difficult due to the actions needed in steps 1 through 4, it is often quite simple and painless for the parties seeking the action. The reality is that the Court wants to know that the actions are in the best interest of the child. It is always better for a child to have two parents when available.

latter@woodatter.com

In Jacksonville, Florida, as a family law attorney, I receive questions about terminating parental rights. This is not an easy process since there are many protections in place for parents. I will probably do a series of blogs on this topic in order to cover each area, but we will start with the consent and agreement of both parties.
If a parent would like to terminate his/her parental rights, then there are certain things that must be in place. The following would be required:
1. There is another person to take the role of mother/father both emotionally and financially.
2. The parent is doing so knowingly with full understanding and willfully.
3. The termination is in the best interest of the child.

If these things are met, then the Court may grant termination of parental rights. The difficulty is, this does not alleviate child support that may be due from years of nonpayment. If a parent owes child support arrearages (back child support), then the termination of their rights does not alleviate or diminish the back child support to be paid.
The only time that can go away is if the other parent (non-terminating) is willing to forgive any and all arrearage. However, if the payments were through the state's Department of Revenue, then even agreeing does not end the State's interest in collecting that money on behalf of the Child.
If this is something that you are interested in pursuing, it is best to work with an attorney on this matter whether your are the one terminating or the one requesting termination.

Written By: Lenorae C. Atter, Florida Family Law Attorney
latter@woodatter.com

In Florida, many courts have time sharing or visitation guidelines and they can be specific to distance. In Jacksonville, we have the 4th Judicial Circuit Guidelines, which provide for time sharing throughout the school year and holidays.

Time sharing is now the correct term for visitation and a time sharing plan is required in a case involving children. You can either use the court guidelines develop your own, as long as the other party and/or the court agrees with the schedule.
Long-Distance Guidelines in Jacksonville set-up a number of opportunities for visitation. There is an ability to continue with alternating weekends, but it must be done in the town where the child resides. You can have once/month at your home, depending on the situation surrounding your case. In addition, you will be entitled, again depending on the facts of your case, to timesharing during the Spring Break time each year and summers beginning 5 days after school gets out until 2 weeks before school commences.
Long distance timesharing often has costs associated, so you have to determine what is best for you and the other parent for the child to stay connected to both parents.

Written By: Lenorae C. Atter, Florida Family Law Attorney
latter@woodatter.com

In Florida, there is a relocation statute if you are moving with a child. As a Jacksonville divorce and family law attorney, I realize that not everyone understands that moving may require court action. Relocating for a job, marriage or any other reason? If you have a child and looking to move, then you may have to file a Petition for Relocation with the Court.
Florida law has a Relocation Statute, which requires that a relocation petition be filed with the Court if you are planning on moving, with your child, 50 miles or more away from your current residence. This is required if the move or relocation is for more than 60 days.
Filing a petition for relocation also requires that the other parent is served with the papers and (s)he has 20 days to file an objection. If an objection is not filed within that time period, then the Court will assume the move is in the best interest of the Child.
If the other parent will agree to your relocation, then you can file an agreement with the Court. The catch is, there a number of provisions within the Relocation Statute that must be met or you could face contempt, the Court can require you to return, and the Court may go so far as to change the primary residential parent.

Written by Whitney R. Lonker, Wood, Atter & Wolf, P.A.
wlonker@woodatter.com

No matter what happens with your divorce in Florida, divorce is costly even if the parties agree on almost every matter. In the end, each party is still having to live on half of the money that they were prior to the divorce. How do you still take your child on a nice family vacation post-divorce in Florida? Below are some suggestions for having a blast of a vacation and building family memories post divorce without breaking your bank.
1. Camping- having memories around the campfire is a great way to wind down and bond with the child(ren) post divorce. It's an inexpensive way to put the stress of the dissolution behind you and to focus on the children in a relaxing setting.

2. Visiting Extended Family- if the ex spouse did not see eye to eye with your extended family, now is the perfect opportunity to rebuild the extended family relationship. Grandparents are important to children. Take this opportunity to build the bond.

3. Volunteering- Take your kids to volunteer at the homeless shelter or Habitat For Humanity in your city. These volunteering opportunities will help to build character and will allow the child(ren) to give back to others. Oftentimes, helping others helps to take the stress off of ones own situation.

4. Fishing or Horseback Riding Trip- There is no better way to de-stress from a contentious legal battle than to get back to nature.

5. Do NOT go into debt to go on vacation. If you can't afford to travel, find creative, interactive activities to do in your own backyard such as a craft project, grilling out, backyard sports such as badminton, etc.

Whatever you decide, there are ways to enjoy the family summer vacation post divorce without breaking the bank. At this point, the kids just want the security of being with you. If you have any questions about child custody, alimony, divorce, child support or other family law or criminal law matters, please contact our firm for expert answers.

Written by Whitney R. Lonker, Wood, Atter & Wolf, P.A.
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More courts throughout the country including Florida are recognizing a condition called Parental Alienation Syndrome or PAS. PAS in Florida is most recognized in contested child custody cases. PAS occurs when one parent pits the child or children against the other parent in a child custody dispute and indocrinates the child with disparaging remarks about the other parent in an attempt to wreak damage to the parent/child relationship and to taint the child's view of the other parent. In some cases where PAS has been alleged, the courts have transferred custody to the parent who is being alienated in order to preserve the relationship. In some jurisdictions, PAS is charged as a criminal offense. In Florida and most other jurisdictions, the courts use the best interests of the child standard and most often, alienating one parent from the child is not in the child's best interests. For more information about this issue and other issues involving divorce, child custody, child support, or family and criminal law issues, please contact our firm for expert advice.

By: Lenorae C. Atter, Jacksonville Family Law Attorney
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1. What will I pay in child support?
- Child support is a calculation mandated by Florida Statute 61.30 and is based on the net income of the parties as a whole and the individual's percentage of that whole. There are things taken into the calculation consideration such as mandatory retirement and union dues, insurance costs of the child(ren) and day care costs for the child(ren). There can be considerations given for special needs or circumstances, but typically the calculated number will be the actual child support to be paid.

2. Which parent will get the child(ren)?
- The court can look at the history of the family unit, to which parent will be more likely to provide for the child's needs, etc. Ultimately the decision is based on the best interest of the child. While the Courts should look solely to the factors impacting the child, sadly there are still biases that sometimes remain, but those can be defeated under the right set of circumstances.

3. How often will I see my child?
- In Jacksonville, we have 4th Judicial Circuit Time Sharing Guidelines, which sets up the minimum amount of visitation. Each circuit is different, but many have the same concepts in place. Basically, the guidelines set-up alternating weekends, one night per week for dinner, and alternating holidays. Summer timesharing is often switched.

Written By: Lenorae C. Atter, Florida Family Law Attorney
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In Jacksonville, Florida, as a family law and divorce lawyer, I represent a number of individuals who have been or are in the military. Military family law differs in that many different amounts of income are factored in for purposes of child support and alimony. In addition, retirement is based on the military's determination of years in plus points earned during the time served in the Reserves.
In order to best determine the rights you and your children have while dealing with a military family case, it is best to speak with a lawyer that is familiar with all aspects of the system. BAH and BAS do change, but child support still factors those in. In addition, since some of the benefits are based on marriage and children, the military actually has some control until a civil court determines the actual amounts to go to the other party.

In a Florida Times Union article this week, summer visitation/timesharing was a topic of the article, " 'Summer switch' under way for divorced parents, kids", which quoted our attorney, Lenorae C. Atter, on the ins and outs of summer timseharing.
The article focused on the changes for both the children and the parents during the summer months, when visitation alternates from weekends to six (6) week visitation/timesharing. Lenorae Atter added to the article her thoughts on the matter stating, "Atter did the summer switch herself as a child and said problems can arise when kids want to go to camp or other activities in the summer, which can lead parents to feel like “their time” is being infringed upon." She went onto include that timesharing plans and parenting plans work to assist the parties in better communicating with each other and taking the children's interests into consideration as they get older.
Timesharing and parenting plans have been in effect since October 1, 2008, and they are helping parents put the children's needs first in the divorce. A great first step in the way we handle visitation in the future.
Lenorae Atter's reference to "sit back and enjoy the ride" truly is a motto for parents and children to benefit from in the annual time exchange.

Written by Whitney R. Lonker, Wood, Atter & Wolf, P.A.
wlonker@woodatter.com

Just about the worst thing that can happen to a parent is to have their child abducted. In the course of a divorce case with custody or time-sharing that is at issue, unfortunately, child abduction by a parent can be a real threat and a real reality. There are approximately 200 cases of parental child snatching every year. Sometimes these parents leave the home state of the child or remove the child from the United States altogether. Florida, like most states, has adopted the Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act (UCCJEA) which rules that initial child custody determinations should be made by the child's home state. A child's home state is the state in which a child has lived with a parent or guardian for at least six (6) months.

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Written By: Lenorae Atter, Florida Family Law Attorney
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Going through a divorce in Jacksonville, Florida or its surrounding areas can raise questions involving visitation, child support, alimony, etc. However, what about grandparents and the impact of divorce on them? In Florida, grandparents are not given a statutory right or any other right to the grandchildren, except as decided by the parent(s).
This matter may arise if the parties that are divorcing disagree on the grandparents having visitation, or if one of the parents is deployed, incarcerated or otherwise not allowed visitation with the children. The primary residential parent would be the decision maker for the children in that scenario. Therefore, that parent can determine with the grandparents will actually get any form of visitation with the children. As grandparents, it is best to keep a good relationship with your own child and your child's spouse/exspouse in order to preserve a relationship with your grandchildren.

In Jacksonville, Florida family law, I deal with cases involving children, divorces, support, visitation and custody, and as d a person interested in my work, I find different information helpful. What is most interesting, however, is that there are so many different statistics we can view, pieces we can read on the effects of divorce, societal changes and how they are affected, and multiple other news and information outlets regarding this topic. However, it does not seem like most of the information provided is from firsthand experience and what a child may have witnessed in their broken home(s).
Recently, I was reading an article in the Washington Post on, the book "The Marriage- Go-Round" and how Americans have a higher rate of divorce than any other country in the world. Not only that, Florida has a higher divorce rate than mid-west or western states. The article discusses the whys and why nots and stability's role in our lives. "If you already have a child and you've broken up with the other parent, slow down. Take your time bringing new people into your household." Andrew J. Cherlin, a Johns Hopkins University sociologist.
The issues raised in the book and the article are all factors in considering a "Parenting Plan," which is now a requirement in divorces involving children. It allows you to factor in the many difficult decisions you and your exspouse will be making through your child(ren)'s life. It's important to consider factors in dealing with new relationships and introducing them into your lives. It also allows you to consider birthday, graduations, weddings, etc.

WHO IS MICHAEL JACKSON'S BABIES' MAMA??? In fact, who is Michael Jackson's babies' father??? News reports have surfaced that neither Debbie Rowe nor Michael Jackson are the biological parents of the three Jackson children. Thus the question arises: Who Will Get Custody of These Children? News reports are stating that Debbie Rowe served as a surrogate mother to the children meaning that her egg was not used in the fertilization of the children nor was Michael Jackson's sperm. Reports are that the children were conceived in vitro using donor eggs and donor sperm. Legally speaking, this really should not make much difference in terms of custody of the children as the children are considered heirs at law of Michael Jackson and his mother will probably be the most likely candidate to gain custody and control of the children and their interests. What this news does do is eliminate Debbie Rowe as a possible candidate for custody of the kids as she served only as an incubation chamber and has no real biological ties to the children. If you or your loved one has a question about custody, paternity, child support or any other issue in Duval, Clay, Nassau or St. Johns Counties, please contact our firm at 904-355-8888 for help in addressing these important complex matters.

Florida's visitation is now timesharing and residential parent is now majority timesharing parent. As a Florida family law attorney I have focused on the parents and children going through this change, but it was brought to my attention that change in visitation and custodial parents is actually having an impact on the Florida schools.
I practice primarily in Jacksonville, Orange Park, Fernandina and St. Augustine, but an article in the Bradenton Herald caught my attention. The article, entitled "Schools Custody Policy Proposed: Custodial Parent Is No Longer Decision Maker In Schools" deals with the impact the new legislation has had on the schools determining which parent is the "go to" parent on school issues. Historically, a family would go through a divorce and the mother or father was determined the "Primary Custodial Parent". In today's world of timesharing, things have changed and the language needs to be tightened up to make things easier. The legislature did create "Parenting Plans" to help in this transition and determine the roles of the parents.
While the article states that timesharing is designed to give both parents 50/50 split, that is actually not true. Timesharing is a way for the parents to feel as if they both get the child and that one parent is not more important or greater than the other. The courts, at least in Jacksonville, still frown at the concept of children not having a stable environment.

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In a Jacksonville, Florida divorce, just the entry of the, "parties are returned to the status of being single" does not bar a claim for child support, division of assets and liabilities and all other related issues. Basically, it is a tool often used so that the parties can declare themselves divorce, but the proceedings continue the path they were on.
The difficulty is, when one party sees this, it may cause panic, tears, concern and frustration. Actually going about the process correctly takes finesse, patience and understanding for the other party. Explain to them that they are not stopped from getting matters resolved, but simply taking care of one issue, the actual marriage that still holds them as "husband and wife."
When going through such a process, make certain that you have certain things in place like a provision that the Final Judgment does not preclude further action. However, in regards to child support, Florida law makes it clear that you cannot actually negotiate away your right or responsibility to child support.

In Florida, the statutes regarding paternity, child support, visitation and custody have different laws when dealing with an out-of-state parent. I am a Jacksonville area divorce and family law attorney and recently I had a case involving a mother and child that reside here and a father that lives out-of-state. The issue that was difficult to overcome is, "which court is proper to bring actions regarding the child?"
Florida Statute 48.193 requires that the out-of-state resident to have some form of contact with the State of Florida. While the presumed father has the option to prevail on this issue if he has not been in Florida, nor was the child conceived in Florida, that does not resolve the issue for the presumed father.
Once a child resides in Florida, the Florida courts have jurisdiction over that child through the UCCJEA and Florida Statute 61.514. Therefore, all actions dealing with visitation and custody must be brought in Florida, so an out-of-state court may be required by the presumed father, to determine paternity and possibly child support, but if the father wants visitation with the child, he will be required to file in Florida.
Also, if any of the actions in Florida Statute 80.2011, then Florida can have jurisdiction over all aspects involving the child, regardless of the other party's contacts with Florida.
Basically, if someone brings the issue of jurisdiction when dealing with a child, the individual will most likely have to hire an attorney in two (2) states as opposed to one (1). It ultimately makes more sense for all actions to be handled in one court and one state and to save the cost for attorneys.

International adoptions are popular not only among Madonna and Angelina Jolie, but Jacksonville, Florida residents as well. As a family law attorney I have clients call once they adopted out of the country and they want to make certain their adoption is legal in the U.S. and in Florida.
Once a child is adopted by a foreign court that document finalizing the adoption can be accepted by the Florida courts as well. The procedure for doing so is important to protect yourself and any issues that may arise regarding that child.
The Florida courts do recognize foreign decrees, foreign orders, but you must petition the court to recognize the decree or order. It is best to speak with an attorney regarding this matter to make certain that all requirements are met from the beginning to speed up the finalization of your adoption which has clearly been a long time coming at this point.

Madonna's, have made the news for years in Jacksonville, Florida and throughout the country. As a family law attorney in Jacksonville, I have clients call to find out the process for such adoptions.
The reality is, as evident in Madonna's current court case in Africa, each country has different adoption laws. In Malawi, where the child resides in Madonna's case, there is a residency requirement for adoptions. That issue, not the paternity issue, is actually what's holding things up for the adoption of Chifundo James. Madonna, feeling that celebrity and money can beat laws, is now caught up in the court system to show the best interest of the child is to be adopted regardless of the residency requirement.
This case is a good example of why the normal adopting family should first look into the laws associated with the country they would like to adopt from. You don't want to get in a situation where you required to relocate for a significant period of time if you don't have to. It's best to contact an attorney where you live to help you in your process from the beginning.

Written By: Lenorae C. Atter

Collaborative action for divorce, child support, visitation, alimony and other family law matters is not common in Jacksonville, Florida.
Collaborative Law is being practiced in most parts of the country, including South Florida, but has not found its popularity in Jacksonville yet. As a Jacksonville divorce lawyer who wants my clients walking away with a smile rather than the need for the spa, I am a huge advocate of this process. I don't think children should be the victim of their parents' inability to communicate, but should be healthier through divorce because the parents have a since of stability throughout the process. That is what is offered in a collaborative law setting. It's the attorneys and the clients, from the very beginning, agreeing that a divorce process aimed at resolving the divorce, custody, child support, marital home, assets, and finances can actually be done amicably from beginning to end.
For those of you who are skeptics, I promise it works. It brings in the two sides, but it also incorporates a neutral mental health professional, financial advisor (if needed), mental health therapists for both sides (if needed), and mental health therapists for the children (if needed). It's a way for constant fighting to be put to a halt so that you can learn to communicate, since like it or not, you are going to have issues arise during your life and the life of your children and why not figure out how to work through those than just agree to disagree for the next 80 years. Who needs the stress?

As a Jacksonville, Florida family law attorney, I have many inquiries regarding adoptions. Recently, the interest in adoptions seems to be growing, possibly due to celebrities like Angelina Jolie and Madonna. Their adoptions have made national news more than once. However, in a struggling economy, I was curious about how adoptions are being impacted and recently heard a news story on NPR related to the issue and now discovered a news article in US Today on the same topic.
According these stories, it appears that at adoption and the option for it has grown exponentially due to the economy. Many more women, especially those with children already, are choosing to place their newborns up for adoption. This decision is being exercised at a time when families are struggling to feed the ones in their home, but also want to provide life and a family to others. Those unable to have children are grateful for the influx in available babies right here in the U.S. and in Florida. At a time when people are struggling to put gas in their cars, the country's women have decided the ultimate sacrifice is their calling and these women and their families are providing others with a chance at what was once perceived as virtually impossible.
There really is a silver lining for a recession.

As a divorce and family law attorney in Jacksonville, Florida, I am aware that even in today's world, custody battles still have judicial biases. As an attorney who represents both men and women, moms and dads, I am disturbed by this court bias that exists. In determining custody, the judge is supposed to look at which parent is most likely going to foster a caring, loving and affectionate relationship between the child and the other parent. In addtion, it is important for the custodial or primary parent to work with the other regarding visitation or timesharing. However, in many cases the court can be given all inforamtion showing that the father is the right parent to provide these things and the mother is actually not fostering the relationship with the other parent, but the judge will still name the mother the primary residential parent.
I am shocked by the idea that one gender can still be given more weight than the other in a modern day judicial system. For the benefit and justice of the child, this prejudice seems unfair and archaic. So, how does one combat it? Truthfully, there is no silver bullet, simply evidence. The more you have on your side the better your case. However, the bias remains true and fast in today's world and it is one that can really only be corrected, in time, by the general public's involvment in the judicial campaigns in their area and state.

The dissolution has been finalized and child custody has been determined but now one party is infringing on the other party's relationship with the minor child or children. What is that parent to do? This happens quite a bit after the finalization of custody in Florida, but the Courts have provided the parent who's relationship is being infringed upon with a solution. That parent can bring an action to modify custody before the Court and normally, the Court will strongly consider changing custody to the parent who is most likely to continue fostering a strong and loving relationship with the non-custodial parent. The infringement must be severe, however and should accompany violations of other factors. Please contact our firm if you believe your relationship with your children is being affected due to the actions of your former spouse. There may be a remedy for you.

Florida Family Law has a new requirement for a Florida Parenting Plan for any divorce involving children. As a Florida Family Law attorney, I think this is a great way for parents to put the children first in their divorce. However, it's just as important to communicate with your children when you're going through a divorce.
We all think that divorce or issues involving our kids is an "adult" issue. The truth is that children feel the affects from beginning to end. As much as divorce may have impacted your life, their life is impacted even more. During a divorce, it is important to keep an open line of communication with your children. Remind them that this is not their fault, remind them that you are both their parents regardless of what mom and dad decide to do. Remind your children that they will still see the other parent.
Think of divorce as a way to learn new communication skills with not only your soon to be ex-spouse, but your children too.
Intentional conversation, open conversation, can make the difference for you and the children. Do not be afraid to let them in, just do not use the opportunity to put the other parent down. Open communication does not equal negative communication. The trick is to remain positive, but realistic. Do not promise things that you cannot deliver, simply let them know what is happening and how things will change, but also how some things will stay the same.
The boxing gloves, while they should never be put on, should be reserved for the attorneys and the other parent, NOT the children.

Stepparent adoption is common in Jacksonville, Florida, where we, Wood, Atter & Wolf, P.A. is located. Florida recognizes adoption by a stepparent to be commonplace and tries to make the process easy on all parties. Consent of the nonparticipating parent is the best way to gain adoption rights of the child. However, some situations do not require consent of the parent.
Stepparent adoption is usually achieved when a parent remarries and the other parent has not consistenly participated in the child's life. Upon the primary parent's marriage, the new spouse offers to adopt the child so that the child can have an intact and stable environment with a mom and dad. Florida courts, looking at the matter in the best interest of the child, are happy to provide such a family unit to a child.
Typically, a nonparticipating parent is fine giving up their parental rights to the child, because it alleviates the need to pay future child support and they understand that the child has a chance at a two parent home. If the other parent is willing, then it is best to get them to sign a consent terminating their parental rights. This process is the easiest method for all parties.
When a consent to the termination of parental rights is signed, Florida still provides a loophole to the terminating parent. If the child is over 6 months old at the time, then the rights terminating parent has only 3 days to rescind the consent, or until the child is placed in the adopting parent's home, whichever is later.

When John Nelson of Orlando Florida was making six figures as a software executive, it was no struggle for him to pay $2200 a month in child support to his ex-wife. But when he got laid off and couldn’t find work, the story was different. He filed for a reduction in his support payments, but had to wait nearly a year to get to court – and he was required to keep paying the support while he waited for his case to come up.

By the time his case was heard, Nelson had found a job as a high school science teacher, making significantly less than at his previous job. He was astounded when Family law Judge Julian Piggotte not only denied his request to lower his payment, but actually raised his responsibility by $300 a month – leaving him just $58 a week to live on. The judge then recused herself from the case because her husband is a coworker of Nelson's ex-wife. Nelson sold his house and moved to Georgia to look for a better paying job. While he may be able to afford the large child support payments, he will be living father away from his kids. Find out more about this topic at Many Dads Asking For Changes In Child Support.

When a parent loses a job, the children still need food, clothing and medical care among other things. Courts make child support decisions based on what is in the best interest of the child, not of the parents. If you are involved in a divorce or child support issue, please contact our firm for expert legal counsel.

In Jacksonville, Florida, like the rest of the nation, parties are finding it difficult to make the final split and afford a divorce attorney to deal with important issues. Issues that can arise in a Florida Divorce are: the dvision of assets and debts; calculating alimony; child support payments; child custody; domestic abuse; and the valuation and division of the family business.
Some suggestions in divorcing in a bad economy include finding a divorce attorney in Jacksonville, Florida who will work with you on attorney's fee payments, who will provide a free consultation or who may engage in a limited appearance on your behalf to draft and file your pleadings or to serve subpoenas or summonses. There are many creative ways to secure a good divorce or family law attorney in Florida in the waning economy. Be certain to inquire about ways to ease the payment and the process when speaking with a family law attorney.
Divorces can get expensive, but they don't necessarily have to. Be savvy and ask questions. This is a great time to buy a house or a car. Shop for a divorce attorney in the same way as you would those items. You will not be disappointed when you get the same good deal.

Many of us have heard the old adage that divorce is hardest on the children. Now counselors and psychologists have a new name for the phenomenon – they have coined the phrase “parental alienation” (also sometimes referred to as “alienation of the child”). The term refers specifically to one parent going out of his or her way to turn the children against the other parent and can include telling children inappropriate information, lying, denying court mandated visitation, and even parental abduction. Experts are careful to note that this goes far beyond relatively normal behavior of speaking out occasionally in front of the children in anger or frustration; parental alienation is marked by parents putting their own selfish feelings above the welfare of their children.

When parents put themselves and their anger ahead of their children, they draw their children into conflict, making the children confused and anxious as they try to work through issues of parental loyalty. Ongoing effects on children can include depression, behavioral problems and learning disorders. Counselors recommend using mediation and collaborative family law to resolve these types of issues within families. They believe that the best way to help children is through early intervention with parents. Most importantly, children need to get the message that it is okay to love both parents during and after a divorce. Read more about this phenomenon at Children torn by divorce.

True parental alienation is a complex emotional issue that likely will involve legal action if one parent is denying court-ordered visitation. A parent in this situation should seek legal counseling and advice from a qualified family law attorney. If you believe you are the victim of parental alienation, please contact our firm for help.

Florida Adoptions are governed by Chapter 63 of the Florida Statutes. In Jacksonville and surrounding areas, the court will look to Chapter 63 in handling the many areas of adoption that arise. The different types of adoptions are the following:
1. Private adoptions
2. Step-parent adoptions
3. Grandparent adoptions
4. All types of domestic and international adoptions.

Each form of adoption has a different procedure that is governed by the Florida Statutes. It is extremely important when adopting your new family member to choose a professional who has experience in dealing with all types of different adoption classes. Adoption costs can vary depending on the form of adoption sought. Most adoptions range in price depending on the type of adoption, the attorney's practice and the issues involved in the matter.

There are organizations that can help, but ultimately an attorney will need to be involved in the process. Hiring your own attorney can be beneficial because the movement of your adoption can be governed by the attorney's hands-on approach. The process is a delicate one and it's important to look at all aspects of your decision. Having someone leading you through it all can be helpful and make the process much easier to understand.

Jacksonville, Florida and the rest of the country are feeling the stress of the economy. Times are tough, which makes people scared and angry. Domestic violence and tempers are on the rise in Jacksonville, Florida, and all across the nation. But it isn't necessarily men who are doing all of the battering. More and more men are becoming victims of domestic violence and they are no longer taking it "like a man". When anyone experiences violence against his/her person, it is imperative to seek help immediately. Whether that help comes in the immediate form of calling the police or subsequent to the abuse in fleeing to a domestic violence center , a hotel, or to an attorney, help is essential.

Ron Artest, Former Indiana Pacers star, was beaten and abused by his girlfriend when she struck him in the head. Artest called the police and the girlfriend was arrested. Many times men are afraid to call the police for help as the stereotype is to arrest the man when a domestic situation occurs. Men need to be encouraged to seek help whenever domestic violence is perpetrated against them.

In Florida, an injunction for protection against domestic violence can be issued and/or criminal charges can be filed against the batterer. There are provisions for protection for all and that protection should be sought before taking the law into your own hands.

When going through a Florida divorce or paternity case involving children, it is important to put the children first. Florida Statute 61.122 governs child custody evaluations in Florida. When Florida parties are divorcing and custody is an issue, the court will often order the parties to obtain a custody evaluation. A custody evaluation is performed by a licensed psychologist who will interview the parties, the children, neighbors and any witnesses suggested by the parties or by the attorneys involved in the case. The psychologist will then write a recommendation as to which party should be the primary time sharing parent in the psychologist's opinion.
The courts rely heavily on the custody evaluation in custody cases but the courts do not have to follow the evaluation's recommendation. The cost of a custody evaluation varies ranging anywhere from $1,500.00-$5,000.00 and is usually split by the parties. It is important to obtain a Florida family law attorney prior to having a custody evaluation performed to receive counsel on statutory factors pertaining to custody.

Florida family law has a relocation statute that prohibits parents from taking children more than 50 miles from their residence without first providing notice. In accordance with the Florida statute, if you have been through a Florida divorce or paternity case and your ex has the primary timeshare of the children, there are specific acts that your ex must perform to be allowed to move more than 50 miles from the primary residence. The moving parent does not have the authority to move the parties' children on his or her own accord even if the move is to accept that new employment position paying that dream salary.

In Florida, the primary parent MUST notify the other parent, in writing, of his or her intent to relocate. The notice is called Notice of Relocation and must be signed before a notary and sworn to and filed with the court. The secondary residential parent then has 30 days to file an Objection to Relocation which will be heard before a Judge who will then decide what is best for the children. The Judge will take testimony from both parties and will determine if the move will affect visitation between the children and secondary residential parent, whether the children's relationship with other family members will be affected, the emotional impact of the move on the children and the relationship with the non-residential parent.

Please note that in some cases, if the primary residential parent moves without proper Notice provided to the other party and to the court, then the courts have authority to change the primary residential custody to the non-offending party. Thus, its very important to follow the relocation requirements as failure to do so could result in the loss of custody.

In Florida, the Department of Children and Families (DCF)is designed to protect children. The goal is not to shatter the home, but to protect the safety and welfare of the children. In its protective role, DCF can act in more of a prosecutorial manner and rather than seeing an incident as a possible accident, they become more accusatory in nature.
Some of the consequences of DCF involvement is that they have the ability to remove children from your home pending an investigation and during the completion of a case plan, which could take from 6 months to a year, or more. If the case plan is not properly completed, then DCF has the ability to petition the courts to declare the child(ren) dependent on the state, terminate parental rights and place the child(ren) in foster care or up for adoption.
Our firm has represented numerous parents and grandparents who have faced DCF charges for putting a child or children in harms way. The reality is that DCF can have an awful impact and disruption on your family and representation is important.

Grandparents' rights in Florida are not easy to accomplish. The Florida Supreme Court has held that the Florida Constitution makes it a personal right to determine who parents allow around their children, even when the excluded parties are family members. In the Jacksonville, Florida area, there are attorneys working to fight against the perception of no rights for grandparents and sometimes there are creative methods that can be used.
The common scenario we receive is someone calling and stating, "My daughter isn't allowing me or my Husband to see our grandkids! I want to file a petition for grandparent visitation with the courts! Can you help me?" While the situation is sad and usually not in the best interests of the children to cease a close familial relationship with their grandparents, the Florida law is such that grandparents do not have an inherent right to visitation with their grandchildren.
However, the situation is not completely dire. Sometimes there are ways around the issue and having someone review your particular facts may be beneficial. Recently in St. Augustine, Florida, a man was accused of killing his wife and was charged with the crime. Prior to his arrest, the man completed a Power of Attorney so that his children could be cared for by his parents. While this is an extreme example, the underlying fact remains that parents can give up their visitation with the children to their parents if they are going to be away for a length of time. This may be a "loop hole" for some looking to see the grandchild that now lives with their child's exspouse
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First, the Florida legislature changed child custody to "primary timesharing parent" in October, 2008. However, since most of us are familiar with child custody and custody issues, this article will still address the issue as the historic term, "custody."
In dealing in Florida Family Law, paternity cases and divorces with children, custody issues often arise and the Custody Evaluation is the single most important factor. In Jacksonville, Florida, many judges are relying completely on custody evaluations to determine who should get the majority of the time with the kids. Some Judges only read the conclusions of the custody evaluation to make their decision.
The evaluation is conducted by a professional, (usually someone with a psychology and law background) who will interview the parents, speak with witnesses, talk to the kids, look at school records, etc. Then the evaluator writes a recommendation which is usually quite lengthy if done correctly.
So how do you present well in the custody evaluation? Extend a mental olive branch to the other party. During your interview with the evaluator, do not destroy the other parent with disparaging remarks. Describe the parts of parenting that the other parent does well and be honest in your comments about the children's relationship with their other parent. Then share the things that do concern you because even though the other parent is an overall good parent, tell the evaluator why the children are better off having more time with you.
If there are serious "concerns" such as child abuse, molestation, or similar behaviors, then you MUST disclose those to the evaluator. These concerns should be addressed in a professional manner with the evaluator, by giving examples or reasons for the beliefs. While those issues are difficult to remove yourself from emotionally, try to keep calm when discussing them so the evaluator has all of the pertinent facts and information to further his/her investigation.
Throughout the process, it is important to remain as calm and beievably positive as possible. You do not want to come across as "Donna Reed" when really you're just a working, single mom trying to make ends meet. That goes for you single dad's too, don't try to be Mr. Cleaver, be yourself, but also be the better part of yourself.

As a Florida divorce attorney, one sees many reasons that people reach divorce. Often, unhappiness describes the general mood of your marriage and you know that divorce is the only answer, its time to get your game face on and start thinking like a business person.
If you haven't given much thought to your finances because your spouse handles them, start looking at them. You need to know what expenses you have and what assets you have.

A Georgia lawyer who personally dealt with divorce and a certified financial planner founded the Institute for Certified Divorce Planners. They offer financial survival tips for the transition from married life to single life. It's not a "stick-it-to-your-spouse" moment, it's a "get a grip" momemnt. They make suggestions for what to do before the papers are filed, with the goal of easing the financial impact of the transition from wedlock to singlehood

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In Florida, when going through a divorce or separation, it is important to get a lawyer that understands the importance of putting down the boxing gloves.
You are ending a marriage and going from love to shuttering at the sounds of her voice or the site of his face, an experienced divorce attorney should take control and guide the client through a constructive not destructive approach. Even though the client may want to "take him for all he's worth" or "destroy her", its the lawyer's responsibility to provide a workable solution especially if there are children involved.
The members of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers have proven that resolutions are often reached without the need for trial. In a 2007 poll, 58 percent of its members indicated that more of their divorce cases over the past five years were settled without trial. Only 12 percent said they were resolving fewer cases without trial. In this present economy, it has been shown that there is a clear preference among middle-income clients to reach agreements without a trial to cut down on the costs of the litigation.
This is not to say that nasty divorce cases are a thing of the past. Not so. In Florida Family, the areas of custody and parenting issues are the highest contested disputes, followed by spousal support and division of retirement accounts.
Due to the new Parenting Statute that went into effect October 1, 2008, the issue of shared parenting should help reduce custody litigation. Nonetheless, the level of resentment the parties may have for one another can drastically affect both the tone and the strife of divorce proceedings.
In the end, there is usually never a true "winner" in a divorce proceeding because of the emotionalism of the area of law. However, your lawyer must be experienced enough to counsel you through the proceeding and to protect your interests from the initial client consultation through mediation to the final hearing. Its important to find a lawyer who doesn't create roadblocks to settling just so he/she can pay his mortgage by billing you. Once the boxing gloves come off and people start to heal, a workable agreement should be able to be reached for both parties ultimate best benefit.

In dealing with Florida family law cases with children, child support is an obvious factor. When going through a Florida divorce or paternity action child support will most likely be ordered by the court. In today's economic times, many more Floridians are facing bankruptcy and how that affects their Florida child support obligations.
Often, one party files for bankruptcy believing that any financial obligation to the other party will be dischargeable in the bankruptcy. On October 1, 2005, the new bankruptcy law went into effect and is entitled BAPCPA. The new law changed many things in the bankruptcy code including how a "domestic support obligation" will be treated. The support obligation can come in many forms such as alimony, child support, money owed to a spouse, or a money obligation incurred during a divorce agreement. Before BAPCPA, the bankruptcy law stated that you could NOT discharge a child support obligation or alimony in a Chapter 7 but you could discharge any money owed to a spouse under a divorce agreement as long as the money wasn't a part of the child support or alimony obligation. This is usually termed as an "equalizing payment" in the final agreement or judgment
Under the old law, if the spouse filing for bankruptcy couldn't pay the debt or if discharging the debt would be less detrimental to the spouse receiving the funds, it could be listed and discharged. Not so with the new law. In a Chapter 7 bankruptcy, the spouse will still have to pay and will not be able to discharge the debt so when the bankruptcy is over, the spouse will still owe the debt to the other spouse
If you or your spouse are having to file for bankruptcy, I encourage you to explore the idea of filing a joint case. This may be more beneficial to both of you in the end. The Bankruptcy Law Network is a blog that contains lots of good information concerning bankruptcy. If you are considering bankruptcy, you should check out this blog because it has information regarding bankruptcy, debt and collection.

As a Jacksonville, Florida family law attorney, divorce, visitation and custody issues are part of my daily practice. Visitation and custody are usually emotional and working with a client on their parental demeanor is vital in moving forward and eventually going before a judge. When dealing with custody and visitation of a child it is important that the court sees that you are willing to cooperate before pulling out a sword.
As of October, 2008, the Parenting Plan Statute went into effect with the purpose of countering bad behavior. The timesharing and parenting statute requires all parents to file and have the court approve a parenting plan that lays out exactly how all issues of time sharing with the minor children are going to be handled. Instead of limiting yourself to only two options, winning it all or losing, there is another, more productive way to approach the custody issue. The approach may require more maturity than some parties can muster, but, for those able to shift gears, think rationally and be patient, the following approach can be rewarding for them and their children. These steps can lead to a better solution for all, especially the children.
Think about, discuss and decide what your ultimate goals are for the kids. What outcomes would you like to see? Many people would want some of the following (or similar) goals:

1. Family Relationships
a. The kids having a great relationship with both parents
b. The kids having a great relationship with their extended families
c. Financial security for the children
d. Having a safe, secure home for the children
e. Having good schools for the kids
f. Providing for a college education for the children
g. Providing sports opportunities for the children
h. The opportunity for the kids to learn music, art or other interests

Each parent can decide what he or she thinks would be important goals for their children. Broader, underlying goals are more helpful and meaningful. If both parents think of goals in broad terms, they often can agree on them.

2. Look at the big picture.

a. Financial abilities of the parents
b. Parental/family member time available
c. What homes and schools are available and affordable
d. What the parents’ neighborhoods are like
e. The existing relationships between parents and children and the roles each parent plays with the children
f. What community resources are available
g. What special needs, if any, a child has
h. What interests the child has

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In Jacksonville, Florida, Family Law and Visitation took on a new role on October 1, 2008 and the way custody and family law has been practiced in Florida is no more. With the new parenting plan statute, judges are no longer to use taboo words such as custody, visitation, custody litigation, primary residence or access and contact. The words will now be replaced with the terms "parenting", "parenting plan litigation" or "time sharing schedule litigation", "time sharing majority of the time", and "time sharing".When dealing with visitation and parent-relations, "best interests" of the child factors have now changed and new factors have been implemented in Florida Family Law. The Florida parenting plan statute is designed to isolate the children from the divorce proceedings as much as possible and to emphasize drafting a plan to help parents in divorce meet the child's needs.
The following factors are now considered when parents are divorcing and custody and children are at issue:
(a) The demonstrated capacity & disposition of each parent to facilitate and encourage a close & continuing parent-child relationship, to honor the timesharing schedule, and to be reasonable when changes are required.
(b) The anticipated division of parental responsibilities after the litigation, including the extent to which parental responsibilities will be delegated to third parties.
(c) The demonstrated capacity & disposition of each parent to determine, consider & act upon the needs of the child as opposed to the needs or desires of the parent.
(d) The length of time the child has lived in a stable, satisfactory environment and the desirability of maintaining continuity.
(e) The geographic viability of the parenting plan, with special attention paid to the needs of school-age children and the amount of time to be spent traveling to effectuate the parenting plan. This factor does not create a presumption for or against relocation of either parent with a child The permanence, as a family unit, of the existing or proposed custodial home.
(f) The moral fitness of the parents.
(g) The mental and physical health of the parents.
(h) The home, school, and community record of the child.
(i) The reasonable preference of the child, if the child is of sufficient age.

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In Florida divorces, Injunctions are prevalent. A Florida Injunction can be handled by your Florida Divorce Lawyer. There are specific criteria that must be met before a court can enter a permanent injunction. Section 741.30 of the Florida Statutes lays out exactly what must be argued to have a temporary injunction entered as a permanent injunction. The statute says that the petitioner must have been a victim of domestic violence OR have reasonable cause to believe that he or she is in imminent danger of becoming the victim of any act of domestic violence. The Elements which must be proven at a hearing before the Circuit Court are as follows:
1. Must be between family or household members.
2. The petitioner must claim to have been the victim of DV or is in fear of imminent DV attack. 3. The sworn petition shall allege the existence of such domestic violence and shall include the specific facts and circumstances.
4. Jurisdiction: Where petitioner currently resides, temporarily resides, where respondent resides, where domestic violence occurred.
There are specific ramifications of a temporary injunction being made permanent. If the petition is granted the respondent will be required to complete a 26 week Batterers' Intervention Program (and pay for it) if (a) the respondent has willfully violated the temporary injunction or (2) has ever been found guilt of a crime involving violence (batteries) or threat of violence (assaults). You should contact a Florida Family Law attorney regarding your needs for an injunction or to defend against allegations made against you.

Navigating your way through unchartered divorce territory can lead to trouble. Often, paying for a divorce can be difficult, especially when one of you makes little to no money. Normally, one spouse ends up footing the bill and incurring extra expenses while the other spouse pays for very little. What can you do when you're waiting for the divorce to be finalized??? TEMPORARY NEEDS HEARING is the answer!

In a temporary needs hearing, a judge will look at each party's income to debt ratio and order a temporary spousal support, child support and marital debt payments. The temporary needs hearing is probably the most important hearing during the dissolution process before finalization occurs. It helps to set the tone for the rest of the divorce process and it also identifies the responsibilities of each party regarding the marital liabilities.

Florida law requires that all divorcing couples with children have a parenting plan, which includes support obligations for both parents. How do the courts in Florida determine a parent’s child support responsibility? The formula, outlined in Florida Statute 61.30, uses the parents monthly income to figure the total child support payment amount. Then each parent is assigned a percentage of responsibility based on their income as a percentage of the total income of both parents. There are some other factors that come into play as well.

Child care: 100% of child care costs due to employment must be added to the support amount.

Health insurance: Any premiums and ongoing medical expenses not covered by insurance must be added in.

Determine the actual amount of support: Florida allows parents to increase or decrease support obligations by as much as 5% without court approval.

Adjust for overnight visits: Child support must be calculated based on the number of nights the child regularly stays with each parent.

Add a provision for terminating child support: In order to automatically end support payments when the child turns eighteen, joins the military, or other recognized events, parents must include a provision for this in the parenting plan. Otherwise the parents will have to return to court to reduce or eliminate the payments.

Consider insurance: The court may require a payer to obtain life insurance. The court cannot require disability insurance, but parents can include a provision to maintain an existing policy.

If you are considering divorce and have children, please contact our firm for legal counsel. Find out more about Florida child support law at Florida Parenting Plans - Child Support Issues to Consider.

In a majority of Florida visitation cases, stopping the relocation of a custodial parent is difficult. After a divorce, determining paternity, or separating, relocating or moving with a child is not as easy as hiring a moving van. In Florida, there is a relocation statute requiring the relocating parent to inform the other parent of his or her intention to relocate and file that notice with the courts.
Once notice is provided, the parent that is not relocating has the option to file an objection to the move, with the court. Once that objection is filed, the judge must have a hearing to determine if the move will be permitted.
At the hearing, the parent that is relocating must show the court that the move is in the child's best interest and that it will not infringe on the non-relocating parent's visitation and relationship with the minor child. Also, there has to be a showing that the parties are able to afford travel expenses involved in continuing that visitation.
The courts want to preserve the non-relocating parent's relationship with the minor child and if the relocation would significantly diminish that relationship then the courts may be more apt to preserve the visitation rather than allow the relocation.

Written by: Whitney R. Lonker
Wood, Atter & Wolf, P.A.

New York Yankee fans can rest assured that Alex Rodriguez (A-Rod) will be able to focus on baseball this year. His Florida divorce is over after less than a year battling with his (ex) wife, Cynthia Rodriguez. The couple was able to reach a settlement agreement, trumping the need to go to court.

Cynthia Rodriguez filed for divorce in Miami, Florida in July, 2008. The petition filed with the court stated, “The marriage of the parties is irretrievably broken because of the husband’s extramarital affairs and other marital misconduct.” Florida is a “no-fault” divorce state, meaning that the affairs really held no legal bearing on alimony. However, any money A-Rod used in advancing the relationships could come back to pad the pocket of Mrs. A-Rod. For example, a trip to England to visit a certain pop star could be fully reimbursed depending on the settlement reached by the couple.

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In Florida, the parent that does not have the child the majority of the time does have rights. The court's main objective is to foster a good relationship between children and parents. In Jacksonville, Florida, the Court has developed the 4th Judicial Circuit Visitation/Timesharing Guidelines to help institute a satisfying schedule for both parents. These guidelines are suggested for parents that cannot reach a satisfying agreement regarding timesharing (visitation). If you and the other parent are able to agree on a schedule, then you can have a more liberal plan in place. Factors in determining the proper timesharing/visitation is also different when the child is under the ageto attend school and it changes if the child lives in a different city or state, depending on the distance.

Parental time sharing is considered important in Florida because it is in the best interest of the child to have a relationship with both parents, if possible. Florida Statute 61.13 details some of the aspects of handling visitation, but typically the courts in your area will have certain guidelines they follow. It's important to know what rights you have as a parent and to implement those rights with the court.

Written by: Lenorae C. Atter
Family Law Attorney
Wood, Atter & Wolf, P.A.

Having grown up in Florida, in a divided home. this is something I know a lot about. As a family law attorney in Jacksonville, Florida, I utilize what I learned as a child in dealing with similar situations. Dividing holidays, birthdays, special occasions and family vacations are a concern for any parent going through a divorce or paternity action. In Jacksonville, FL, we have the 4th Judicial Circuit Visitation Guidelines, which were designed by the court to make division of time easier on parents when they cannot reach an agreement.
Development of a timesharing and parneting plan assists the parents in formulating their schedule for the youth of the child, not just year-to-year. For instance, in accordance with the Jacksonville-area guidelines, holidays are alternated between the parents. In odd numbered years Thanksgiving will be with one and Christmas will be with the other and it will switch for the following,even-numbered year. If you are fortunate to all live in the same city, then it is alternated a little differently.
In approaching the subject with your children, it's important to keep a positive attitude about the changes. Remembering the "silver lining" ideas, such as more presents and twice the celebrations. I remember having two birthday parties, which seemed like the coolest thing in the world when I was a kid.
When separating and developing two different households things will never be perfect, but they can and often do work.

By: Lenorae C. Atter
Family Law Attorney
Wood, Atter & Wolf, P.A.

Florida Statute 61.08 provides the rules for receiving alimony. However, only the courts and many lawsuits have created the boundaries for what are considered short-term and long-term marriages. As such, many people feel that if they are married and their spouse provided for them, then they are entitled to alimony in some capacity.

If you have ever dealt with child support issues or other family law matters, then you may know that the amount in child support is determined by a calculation and the numbers don't really change one way or another because it's really a black and white issue. However, that is not true with alimony, and there are many factors that can be considered. However, the focus here is not in the aspect of determining whether you'll receive alimony, but just to clarify a few terms that you probably could not find on your own.

In first determining alimony, your legal representative and/or the court will evaluate the length of the marriage. In Florida, a long-term marriage is considered anything over 15 years of marriage and a short-term marriage is anything up to 10 years. Many people fall within a gray area, which the court has the right to use its discretion in determining and that is the 11-15 year marriages. It is important to realize that the court does have discretion to rule in accordance with the lifestyle of the parties, the work dynamic of the parties, and many other aspects. Also, since Florida does not recognize an equation for the process, often each judge has his/her own way of determining how, if any, alimony should be determined.

In Florida, moving with a minor child is more than just hiring a mover. Florida Statute 61.13001 gives you specific directions in dealing with this topic, but not following the statute can lead to many issues.

If you are moving 50 or more miles away and you plan on taking your child(ren), then the statute requires that you inform the other parent by Notice and let the court know of the change. The other parent has the right to object to your relocation after receiving notice. If you move before the relocation is entered with the court, then you can be forced to return to Florida, with the child. Failure to comply can lead the court to order you stay in Florida; change the primary residence of the child; or other otions available to the court. It is important to understand that Florida Statute 61.13001 is very precise and has a number of requirements, it is important to follow the statute precisely and would be beneficial to seek legal counsel.

Sarah Palin's daughter was 17 years old and pregnant, Jamie Lynn Spears was 16 and pregnant, and most likely your Florida teen knows someone in high school that's pregnant. Taking the political nature of the question out, as in Pro Life or Pro Choice, what are the options one has?
I'm pretty certain that many of these young girls really don't want to get married right now, but obviously that is an option. But, does it really solve the problem? In Florida we recognize that parents have the right to child support, so the old fashioned idea of pregnancy equals marriage is not really necessary. In fact, it statistically causes more problems later since the majority of marriages that end are due to the couples being too young when they got married.
Another answer is for a paternity test to be done and filed with the court in order to prove the child does have a father, and hold that father responsible for any child support obligations. In teen pregnancy the mother and father are sometimes in school, but the court can impute income for child support to be assessed. Also, the child does have the option of going on state funded medical insurance. However, this is a tough road altogether and it's important to make certain you're making the right choice.
The option that is often overlooked because emotions control is adoption. Adoption is a great way to provide a good home for a child and make certain that all of the child's needs are being met. The popular movie "Juno" focused on a 15 year-old making that decision and though it was a movie it actually did a great job of showing how many good parents there are that are not capable of having them on their own. For a teenage girl willing to carry a child for 9 months, but not being able to recognize the long responsibility and affect the choice will have on her life, adoption is a wonderful option.
Any of these options are available, but making certain that all parties, especially the child are cared for properly, it would be beneficial to meet with a family law attorney that handles these types of issues on a regular basis.

For many years, the courts in Florida have embraced the idea that a child of divorced parents should enjoy the input and direction from both parents, not just the parent who has “custody.” So, under Chapter 61, Florida Statutes, the court will typically require that the divorcing parents have “…shared parental responsibility.” Sometimes this is loosely referred to as, “joint parental responsibility,” or at least what that’s what the parents “hear” when they hear “shared parental responsibility. But this does not mean “joint custody.” Joint custody is where each parent has “custody” of the child for roughly equal lengths of time. This is not usually favored by Florida courts, as it often becomes impractical, especially if the parents live too far apart, or even in different school districts, much less different cities. Also, as children grow, their circle of friends and social interests expand, which can be compromised by their going back and forth between parents like a ping-pong ball. So, “shared parental responsibility” or even “joint parental responsibility” is not the same thing as “joint custody.”
With “shared parental responsibility,” both parents keep full parental rights and full parental responsibilities. Section 61.046, Florida Statutes. This also means that the parents must consult and confer with each other on matters concerning the welfare and best interests of the child, especially on major decision. When it comes to medical care or education, these decisions should be made jointly, if possible, after the parents have consulted each other. However, sometimes a court will split these areas of responsibility between the parents. Section 61.13(2), Florida Statutes.

In a typical divorce case, the child’s “primary residence” is deemed to be with one parent, who is granted the “primary residential care” of the child. This parent is usually referred to as the “custodial parent.” Sections 61.046(3), 61.13(2)(b) 2.a., Fla. Statutes. Not surpisingly, the other parent is usually called the “noncustodial parent.” Section 61.046(10), Florida Statutes. But none of this labeling changes the basic fact that the parents usually share in the parental rights and responsibilities for the child.